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| Sun, 05-18-2008 - 3:06pm |
H hasn't seen the kids since last Saturday. I get an email from him this afternoon that says he is busy Monday and Sunday, but otherwise he's open, when can he see the kids?
What scaulds me is how he can constantly tell ME what HIS schedule is, but when I try to plan something for ME, HE'S busy. I feel like writing back and saying, "oh, that's too bad because we're busy Tues., Wed. and Sat." (since he works "late" every Thurs & Fri and isn't available to help with or see the kids on those days

I sent my initial thoughts on custody/visitation to my attorney earlier today. In there I specified that until he had a valid driver's license he could not drive the kids. So I basically proposed Wednesdays for a couple hours and a few hours every other Saturday until he has his driver's license back (Jan. 2009 he says). Do you think that is too harsh?
And as for summer vacation, I requested (in my initial thoughts document to my attorney) that alternative driving arrangements needed to be made (e.g. a relative), with approval by me, if he wants to take the kids for a vacation week this year yet and plans to drive with them.
I'm feeling like a beotch, but then again he's the one with 3 DUIs in 6 years, he's the one that is actively drinking again, he's the one that doesn't have a license and ALL that just doesn't sit well with me. I know he's their father, but he's the alcoholic, not me. And I need to be the protector/voice of reason when it comes to my children.
I do not believe he'd drink and drive with the children around, but then again, I can never say never. And I don't care to really put that one to the test. And of course all this inconveniences me, because it basically mean I'm rushing from work to get them and bring them home so he can have his visitation with them at the house...but I guess in the grand scheme of thing, and especially for their safety, it's the best option. Though he's not going to like it one bit. He's going to be pissed. And I'm truly not doing this to punish him (though I'm pissed as heck at him for a lot of reasons), I want my children safe.