His latest stunt is UNBELIEVABLE!!!!

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His latest stunt is UNBELIEVABLE!!!!
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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 10:52am

I don't know if anyone has ever been in this situation before, but any advice, input or feedback would be appeciated. Last Saturday night my parents were served papers to show up at my STBX's attorney's office with copies of their wills, tax returns and any other financial documents!!!

The angle? I'm not sure, but I suspect my STBX told his attorney they're "wealthy" (which they are not - they are retired military). I'm thinking that he wants a cut into any intended inheritance I may receive in the future, or maybe he doesn't want to split half his retirement with me or give me my portion of the equity in our home. My attorney is putting a squash on the matter for now and will handle this situation, but she told me that even if I am intended to inherit any money, it is not guaranteed. My parents could live another 30 years, they could blow it in Vegas tomorrow, or any other scenario could happen.

What he is doing to my parents makes my blood boil. They have been so good to him over the years and they don't deserve this. It is our divorce; not theirs! He is no man - he is less than a man. Any comments? Anyone with experience with this type of situation? Thanks!

Belinda

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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 12:04pm

Wow... I've never heard of that one before... that would frustrate the h e double hockey sticks out of me too... your attorney is right though, no inheritance is ever guaranteed before it is time for the inheritance...

Keep us posted!

*hugs*

Julie

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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 12:22pm

That seems odd...even in community property states, inheritances are separate property. It is in my state. You could look up your state's property laws online. I can read the actual code on the texas government website.

Maybe he's trying just to enrage you and your family.

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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 1:14pm

"Maybe he's trying just to enrage you and your family."

I think that's exactly what he's trying to do because I won't go back to him.

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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 5:17pm
That's true unless their will is worded to give leftover monies to their daughter and her husband.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Wed, 01-18-2006 - 6:10pm
CL-wildlucky has a very good concern about the wording of the bequest. Maybe your parents should revise their will to name only you or only the grandchildren. Cover all your bases.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 6:26pm

THere's gotta be more to it than just a potential will. They were served???? What did they do? Did they go? I would go empty handed if I were them, with a lawyer of their own if possible.

I find it hard to believe that a lawyer would go along with what would simply be a punitive action on his part.

Their will can easily be changed today, then changed back once the divorce is settled. Tooooo weird.

SUsie

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 11:22am

Wow...


Zinnia,


I am sorry he pulled your parents in like that but I can relate all too well.

Peace,

Di

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