Holiday Heartache

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2007
Holiday Heartache
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Thu, 11-15-2007 - 8:35pm

I am feeling so much apprension about Thanksgiving and Christmas.

I asked my husband (who's been moved out for two weeks tomorrow) via email to spend Thanksgiving with me, and he did not respond. I asked via email a second time, and again no response. When I saw him in person and asked a third time, he claimed he has no plans. But he did not accept my invitation.

I am fearful that he will be spending this holiday and the next with the OW and her family. They used to consider me a part of their family (as they're my former assistant/close friend's family), but now it doesn't seem to matter that their daughter's dating my husband. The entire situation makes me sick. Living alone makes me sick. Waking up in the middle of the night crying makes me sick. Thinking about spending the rest of my life without him makes me sick.

Any tips for getting through the first holiday alone? THANK YOU for your continued support.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 9:26pm
First, you are right. It stinks!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2005
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 4:45am

First and foremost if you aren't on this ivillage board, you should be it's for betrayed spouses and there are a great group of women there that can help you with the same thing they have been through: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/listsf.asp?webtag=iv-rladultery&nav=start&

The holidays are really tough and although it may be difficult to understand why people do what they do just because they aren't calling you and saying we denounce this relationship, they may be having as tough of time accepting the relationship between their daughter and your husband. But realize that they are adults and they can't control other people so they have to just bite the bullet and accept what comes if they want a relationship with their daughter you know?

Hang in there...I have been there it's hard

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Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 8:12am

I know these times are hard, very hard.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 12:02pm

I know this is a hard time of the year for anyone going through a significant loss such as divorce.

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Registered: 07-07-2007
Fri, 11-16-2007 - 7:37pm

Thank you, everyone, for all the great responses.

Your support means SO much to me at this time. You've all become my lifeline.

Hugs,
M