holidays

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holidays
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 10:46am
I am trying to keep really busy this holiday season, but I still feel so darn lonely. I miss my ex terribly and there are times when I just feel like crying. I know that he's just as lonely as I am. It just doesn't seem right that we both have these feelings and here we are not being able to do anything about them. Can someone just tell me how to get through this season? It's harder than I ever thought it was going to be.
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In reply to: robinl2006
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 9:42pm

Its not easy to make it through the holidays--the first few were painful for me, since my wedding was in December and we batted around several dates that just wound up being special for me, all in December...

Accept that this will be a rougher time--and that's OK. Allow yourself to feel the emotions you are feeling--don't try to convince yourself you have to be happy for the holidays... its nice when it works out that way, but...

Start new traditions... have you given up something holiday-ish because your x didn't like it... Is there something you've always wanted to do? Do something good for yourself--get a manicure if you haven't done that in a while... a pedicure is nice... if you see something you like that you can afford to splurge on, do it--I found a mug my first December and for some reason that mug just made me so darn happy... don't understand it, but it worked...

Stay busy--volunteer at a homeless shelter or with one of those organizations that provide meals for the needy... spread joy that way--by giving part of yourself to another--Karen has a great Brooker T Washington quote in her signature, "If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.

Just take it one day at a time and know that it does get easier with time and we're here for you when you need!

*hugs*

Julie