How to bring up the Divorce topic ...

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Registered: 04-02-2003
How to bring up the Divorce topic ...
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 3:00pm

I have reached a point in my marriage of 5 yrs, where I've realized I need to let go and move on. I have been in a controlling and mentally abusive relationship, and after attempting couples therapy over the last year, and continuing to be blamed for "our problems" I've reached a breaking point.

We are more or less "roommates" at this point. Now, even though I've suffered through the mental abuse etc. over the years I do not want to hurt him, when I bring up divorce (if that is even possible). I am now out of town staying with family, to try and build up my strength to confront him. I have told him I am down here just trying to "figure out what I need". Because of his tendency towards anger/agression I am hesitant to confront him face to face. Does anyone have any suggestions with how I can go about handling this situation, while also keeping his feelings in mind?