how to cope when you have no strength left..

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Registered: 06-17-2006
how to cope when you have no strength left..
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Tue, 08-02-2011 - 7:31pm

left my bullying, verbal/emotional abusive husband. But have no strength to deal with what comes after..court, support, custody and all..I dont have mental strength to go through..I wish I just had money so I dont have to deal with him or anything. No contact with him is easier said than done. We still have a teenager betwen us who has her own drama going on..and I cannot just lose contact and leave never to hear from him again.

Any words of wisdom apprecited. how did you go on when you couldn't...

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 8:25pm

Winter,

Hi. Please get in touch with your nearest domestic violence outreach or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. These folks can help you get support and point you toward resources to help you deal with your STBX and the abuse you suffered. Please call someone today. Look in your yellow pages or Google the NDVH.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 08-02-2011 - 9:58pm

I'm sorry to see it was you who posted this.

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Wed, 08-03-2011 - 11:50am

Thanks, I am seeing my therapist..I think being so conditioned with his bullying and guilt tactics, I find myself reverting to that role even now when I need to be strong. Partly due to making it as easy on DD as possible. But giving in now is not in my long term interest and I need to find that balance. My therapist did say..this time isn't going to last where I continue to feel like this..it will pass..thanks again.

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Registered: 04-19-2011
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 10:05am

Winter2007,

I completely understand what you are feeling. My divorce was final two weeks ago tomorrow and I still am having to deal with some of the legal matters. There were times when I thought, just forget it, it would be easier for me to say he could have it all. I even thought

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Registered: 06-17-2006
Thu, 08-04-2011 - 1:38pm

hi confused, thanks, I appreciate your perspective..on the situation. Quite true. Good luck to you as well for the future.