How to create distance when kids are inv
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| Fri, 12-28-2007 - 7:51pm |
How do I create distance when children are involved?
I cant take it anymore! He is cold, cruel and heartless. He is horrible to me on the phone most of the time (unless he think he is getting his way) and just about the same in person. I cant take it anymore. How can he hurt me as much as he has and be so cold and heartless. I could never bear to hurt another person as much as he hurt me. I could not live with myself. He destroyed our family, left without a word, at night and tried to take his 2 bio kids and left the 2 step kids *he has raised* behind. He harasses me whenever he hears something that the kids said that he feels he can use against me. (like my boys riding my sisters snowmobile without helmets. its a very old machine, only goes like 15 MPH and her boyfriend was out there all the time)
I never want to see him or talk to him again. I never want to hear his voice or be in the same room as him again. I want him to go away and leave us alone to move on and live a happy life without him trying to drag us down too.
How the HECK do I get past the pain right now? I am exhausted and cant sleep, never want to eat, never want to be alone, nights are hardest...
I just dont know....
It sounds like I need some distance from him, but HOW THE HECK can I get that?
Liz

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*huggs*
I know exactly how you feel. At night I still dream that we are together or we get back together. It kills me. I hate sleeping because of it. I have been praying to have one night where I don't have to dream of him....
Seems as though men move on much faster than women, thats a testament to how deep of feelings they have (puddle depth?)
Liz
i've been awake since about 5am thinking and i'm tired of him consumming my life.
I am going thru something similar but I am still in love with my ex husband and he just recently started up a relationship with another woman.
*huggs* Thats exactly how I feel!!!!!!!!
I am just waiting for college classes to start so I can have something to focus on. I am aiming for a perfect 4.0 for this semester and the summer semester. I want to graduate with honors!
I am also going to buy myself a new bellydance DVD tomorrow and start to get back to bellydance. I used to be a teacher. :) I have to keep reminding myself of those kinds of things.
What kinds of things do you like to do? or did you like to do? or wanted to learn to do?
Liz
Gwen..time to implement the 180. be matter of fact. Calm, cool and collected.
He is hitting your buttons because he knows he can. he sounds like a miserable SOB.
You need to put up an emotional wall up for
I wont let him drag me into his world of lies and misery. He can have his OW do that with him.
Liz
Liz,
Hi, I'm Liz!! New here, but your cry for help really struck a nerve. I could have posted the same thing. DH took off over a year ago and despite all logic and common sense, continues to make bad choices. He left to "be happy" but he is the most miserable sob I know. Just hang in there. I too am feeling angry and trying to create distance. I'm sick of him being able to have both worlds.
Let's hope the new year is a better one!
I wouldn't really wish any harm or bad times on anyone, but in passing I do hope my STBX ends up like "the most miserable sob I know" thats about what he deserves.
Liz
School can be fun and it will take up a decent amount of time, plus it will force you to focus on other things beside him.
I give you alot of credit for maintaining your attitude.
Happy New Year
BobK
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