How did you know it was over?

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Registered: 09-12-2005
How did you know it was over?
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Sun, 02-19-2006 - 8:21pm

I have been married for almost 5 years and we just had a baby (1 month old). I had decided awhile ago that I was finally ready to call it quits and move out. Only a few hours after I decided that I got the tests results that I was pregnant. So I stuck around, thinking I wanted us to be together for the baby and we could work on things. Well during the pregnancy things got worse! My only problem with him is that he is an alcholic. While I was pregnant he got a DUI and so now we are having to deal with that as well him still drinking on a daily basis. I think it is more than I can handle, I pride myself on being a strong person. I do not feel so strong anymore this problem is part of my everyday life, we fight all the time becuase of the drinking and he spends so much money to make sure that he drinks everyday that our bank account takes a daily hit.

Sorry to vent like this - I guess I just want to know that I am not the only person that has gone threw this.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 8:45am

Hello FTM and hugs to you.

Peace,

Di

***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***

 

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 9:01am

Be strong and listen to your gut feelings. Am sending cyber prayers that you will get through this. Please keep you and your baby safe. Get out and get help if you need to- there are professionals who can help you help yourself. Use them. Good luck.

Laura

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 02-20-2006 - 11:40am

my second ex is addicted to pain killers and tranquilizers - he definately has all the characteristics of an addict (except that his drug of choice is legal, and almost free, and 'socially acceptable').

for me, there was a time difference between making the decision (i.e., "knowing" that it was over) and being ready to take *the* step. i got ready, i was in therapy, my ds was in therapy (actually my then husband and i were in therapy together), spent some time researching where to move to and so on. you have a baby --- the question is who will support the baby, will you work, where will you live, etc. definately - take the time to research, try and put some money aside if you can

hugs....