How did you let go

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Registered: 05-05-2005
How did you let go
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Sat, 02-17-2007 - 10:55pm
I can't seem to let go of stbx. I find myself driving by his work or home. I call him just to see if he answers. I've been searching all night for his email address. I even logged into his school email to see what I could find out.

 

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 12:44am
I know how you feel though I dont know what to suggest. Try to think of other things, force yourself if you can. My X started cheating on me 3 months ago. I got so sick of seeing his eyes light up everytime he went to call her. we were together 29 yrs or so.
He filed for divorce in January and our divorce was final on Feb 1st. He will be in our home a few more days though most everything is out. I grabbed his cell phone last night and listened to his messages and it was her saying she loved him. she is married to another man puke
I called her back several times and left messages and I sent her an email told her to quit calling My man .......
what is the point in me wasting my time with the likes of them. but I do know how you feel. someday we wont even give him a second thought hardly I just betcha! Like my first husband I feel nothing ...nothing and I liked to died when we divorced so yes girls we will heal.
take it a day at a time.........and someday they will almost seem like a total stranger to us!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:27am

gal_power...

First...Pianoguy thinks that all the "J" names in your family are very cool.

Here's PG's answer to your question:

The moment you stop seeing someone...you terminate the spying, research on his current lifetyle, or making the attempt to "get something on him" that you can eventually use to hurt him (OR his children's relationship with him).

I was cheated on too...both by an EX/GF as well as a 2nd wife. And in both cases...when I left them (or vice versa)...EVERYTHING ENDED! The desire for communication wasn't an option. They were part of an earlier life chapter that was over and done with!

Once you HONESTLY realize the same thing, you won't be driving by his house...or have a desire to snoop! You'll accept what has happened...and gravitate in the direction of the people who MAKE YOU HAPPY!

And if you're looking for an honest split with limited contact...this is something you CAN do!

Pianoguy