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How do I go about this?
| Sun, 12-10-2006 - 4:40am |
I have been married to my husband for 6 years and we have a 3 year old daughter. We haven't been happy in our marriage for about 3 1/2 years now. We have had numerous issues over the last few years-financial issues, bankruptcy, unemployment, etc. He lost his job initially about 4 months after our daughter was born and he hasn't been the same since. We had been going to marriage counseling prior to him losing his job. He has been in and out of work, mainly out of, since then. He admits he would rather be unemployed then work a menial job to help support the family. He also has the tendency to be pretty verbally abusive at times. I make good money but we are just short of making our bills each month. First of all, how do I bring up getting divorced or separated? Will I have to pay him alimony even though he has a college degree and is capable of working? Our home is in my name and the car is in his name. If he agrees to take the car I would be able afford supporting myself and daughter but barely. Also my daughter and my husband are very close and have a wonderful relationship. How can I expect this to affect her? Will she be miserable? Also, my hours at work are very strange and I work 12 hour night shifts several nights one week and then have several days off together the next. Any ideas on how to work out placement with that? I am sure I would get primary custody but I would need my husband to help out with my daughter since I work overnight. Family doesn't live close enough to help very frequently. I am trying to get a day shift job but I don't think I will make as much money on that shift which leads to more money issues. HELP!!! But to start, how do I even bring up the subject of divorce? I don't want to hurt him. I don't know where he will go because, of course, he is unemployed. I am also worried that he might become suicidal at that point.

Hi there~
Ya know... if he's suicidal, the best you can do is try to get him help if it takes things that far.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~