how do i go back home?

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Registered: 05-09-2008
how do i go back home?
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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 9:29am

I found early january that my husband had been cheating on me for over a year. Have a 19 month old. told him to move out of the home. He did but kept coming back all the time. There was abuse as well and I got scared and moved out of the house. He has been in the house since then. Due to certain reasons we cannot file for a divorce yet. But I really think it is unfair that he gets to live in the house and I and the kid in a small apartment. I tried going back, but he does not let me. We have the mortgage in both our names and he threatens to get off the mortgage..can he do that? I work and am quite capable of paying the mortgage, but the bank wont give me such a big loan bcos of the whole housing mess. He has called his parents to live with them and they all are occupying my house and using my stuff. What can I do? What are my options? Please advise.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 10:28am

You need to consult an atty right away to determine your rights.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2003
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 12:09pm

Hi there ashi,


Musiclover is right about going to an attorney.


In addition, I'd ask the local police or sheriff what to do, including all aspect about the abuse. (In the future, call the police immediately regarding abuse, and call them every single time.)


He cannot cut you off of a mortgage without you explicitly releasing your dower rights - so he would have to both refinance, and retitle.

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Registered: 05-09-2008
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 12:46pm
Thanks for the responses. I actually did hire an attorney, but he did not tell me this thing about him not being able to refinance. Perhaps i need to look for another attorney.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2008
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 3:41pm

Hi ashi08,


definately go see an attorney!!!!!!!.

KLM
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Registered: 05-07-2008
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 1:49pm

My STBX kicked me out of the house, and changed the locks.