how do I survive pick up/ drop off?
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how do I survive pick up/ drop off?
| Wed, 07-19-2006 - 11:55am |
I'm not sure what to do anymore and I am beyond frustrated. He is always very late or very early picking up and dropping off kids. I 've gone out of my way to help him the last few months, hoping to start a new trend but he still has no consideration for my schedule whatsoever. I don't hink mediation would help because they can't "make" him be on time. I don't want to take him to them because he moved about 30 miles away and I feel that was his choice. Also, he would pull the same stuff, like not being there. I tried to "give him a taste of his own medicine" by not being here one time he was late. He retaliated by not taking them on his next two scheudled nights. I feel like he is in control and I'm in a lose/lose situation. Please, any advice?

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I also endure being "punished." If I knew then what I know now, I would have had a LOT more specific information put in the custody section of the decree.
About going back to court....you don't have to have an attorney represent you, though I know it can be kind of scary without one. You can go to the court clerk's office and ask for the forms to
I know what you are going through and I have been divorced for 5 YEARS! I was nice at first with the visitation because I wanted the kids to know their dad and he didn't seem to have a clue how to go about not being a family anymore. Big Mistake in the sense that now he seems to think I should forever not have a life!
If you can find a way to modify and make things more specific I would try to do so. I have tried everything but basically there is nothing that can be done. He has been married twice now and I keep hoping that the new wife will be the one to get him in shape. He has only been married a short time time so I still have hope. I try to tell him as nicely as I can that he NEEDS to call and make arrangements with the kids by Wed at 9:30 when pick up will be. He doesn't because he gets to be in charge and knows I won't NOT let the kids go. But, I am an adult and SO and I take very good care of all of our children, we both have full time jobs and all the kids have activities/sports which require alot of our time. SOME weekends we would like to just go out and be together..you know the two adult things. Hard to do when you NEVER know which day he is coming. He is famous for last minute changes. Keep reminding and keep making him understand YOUR time is as IMPORTANT as his!
Kelly