How do we do it all?

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Registered: 07-29-2005
How do we do it all?
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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 10:45am
How do you do it all...by that I mean, I am getting so burned out and ragged from being everything to everyone...the sole bread winner of the family, being mom to two children, the grocery shopping, the errands, getting the kids to their activities, cleaning the house, working full time, dealing with an irrational ex husband, cooking dinner, cutting the lawn, finding time to just have fun with the kids....My days are so go, go, go and then the evening comes and i'm wiped out. I'm sick of hearing from my ex how I get to spend so much more time with the kids than he does....well, just because they sleep at my home most nights doesn't mean i get to spend all the quality time with them. Keep in mind he has a gf who cleans for him, grocery shops for him, takes care of all his errands, has hired a housekeeper and a landscaper, I know it's the disney dad syndrome, where when he has the kids the get to go do all the "fun" stuff and when they are with mom, it's work, work, work.....How does everyone else do it and balance their time and not feel resentful, or even grumpy at the end of the day from being so tired. Just looking for some feedback...I know all us single mom's have a difficult time. Thanks

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:19am
I'll be honest....I actually have far more free time and feel better rested now than I did when I was married. But I know that's not the case for everyone. I did everything before anyway - cooking, shopping, cleaning, yardwork, working full-time, etc. So in my case, I have one less person to do things for and a MUCH smaller yard to take care of. But I do remember the days of feeling run completely ragged!




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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 12:41pm
Brooke LOVES it when I put on the Chicken Dance and turn it up.... she says I'm "silly!".... LOL!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 3:02pm
OMG, Karen, that's a great idea!!!! I'm going to run out and find that chicken dance music. Rosie learned it in school this year and when they were doing it at a dance before Christmas, she was amazed that most of the chaperones joined in (me included) because all those middle-schoolers thought this was new! *snorting as I laugh*

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 06-08-2006 - 4:22pm
I downloaded it from iTunes music store ;-)

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 6:27pm

At my house, my ds and I have pajama day each Sunday. We don't get dressed unless we want to - we lounge around in bed and watch Thomas the Tank Engine in the morning. We play games and we do whatever fun things we can think of. Lately we have started going to family swim time at the gym where I work out. It is pretty fun and my ds is getting a chance to brush up on his swimming skills before swim lessons start.

Short games we like to play are mancala and connect 4. They don't take much time, are fun and it's also teaching him to think ahead!

Yep, the floors aren't always clean, stuff gets stacked up quite often, but I am trying to make some nice memories for both myself and my ds that don't cost much. He is still at an age where cleaning house is something he likes to help with - so sometimes we'll make a game out of that, too. I definitely want him to know that there are things that have to be done around the house and that both of us need to pitch in.

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