How do you answer this question....
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| Tue, 03-28-2006 - 4:15pm |
You run into someone you haven't seen in a while, an old friend or old aquaintance. They ask you how you are doing. I'm doing great, I say (which is the absolute truth). Then they ask how the stbx is doing because they don't know that you've split. How do you answer that question?
I've been trying to be honest and sincere without airing my whole story. Know what I mean? I've said, "we're doing great. I mean, me and the kids are doing great." Then the person continued, "I saw so-and-so recently but haven't seen him in a while. How's he doing?" And I say, "I don't know. I haven't heard from him either." or I say "We're not together. It's just me and the kids. And we're doing great."
How do you handle yourself in that situation....? How do you feel, etc when asked? How much do you feel you need to share?

I've been in that situation, I know exactly how you feel. I've gone ahead and told them that I'm doing well and the kids are doing well, but that I'm now divorced (or going through a divorce). My ex had NO friends so I never really had to worry if anyone would ask how he was doing but sometimes I've been asked many many questions and since I'm a very open person I've just answered them. I always felt a bit uncomfortable because I was THRILLED to be divorcing but everyone kept telling me how sorry they were! I just had to keep saying, "It's for the best, I'm really happy..." over and over again.
Melanie
Yep, I've had that already. It is worse for me because STBX had cancer two years ago, so I still have people checking on his recovery from that.
I like "We're not together any more, and we're all doing great!"
I also take the chance to distract from the subject by mentioning my new job.
I was a little more sensitive when I divorced EX.... because of the kids, so I'd usually just say :things with us didn't work out, but we're OK"
Now, the last person that asked me about EX-SO, I said "he hit the high road!"... and that was being polite.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~