How do you decide?
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| Mon, 01-29-2007 - 10:46pm |
Sorry ladies, I don't mean to intrude on your board.
My question is this. How do you decide that it's time to divorce? I have been with my wife for 11 years now, married for over 7. I had an affair this past year that she knew about, but let go on. It ended near the end of last year. My wife and I decided to work on fixing our marriage. However, there were things that made me unhappy prior to the affair that I know will still make me unhappy if we were able to fix our marriage.
I was 20 when I met my wife, and it makes me sad to think of her not alway being by my side. We 'grew up' together, and have love each other very much. We just recently found out that we don't have anything in common anymore. Looking at our marriage pragmatically, we shouldn't be together. But the love that we have for each other is so strong that neither of us can pull away. It's depressing to think about this.
I don't know if anyone has any enlightening information, but if you do I would be very glad to hear it.

Oh, You're not intruding..
You said.... you love her, you grew up together... can't imagine life without her... but there are things... that will still make me unhappy even if we fix our marriage.
I'm confused a little bit... I guess that part of a relationship and loving each other is recognizing our differences... and knowing if you can live with those or not.
Have you tried counseling?
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~