How do you find the right words?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How do you find the right words?
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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:22am

Haven't been here in a while...finally going to get it done...and none too soon!

SO...I have to tell the old man that I'm leaving and that I'm doing it on Thursday! I just don't know how to tell him...should I say "let's get off this horse before it kills both of us!"? LOL

If I tell him too soon, he'll drive me crazy..ER than he usually does. If I wait too long, I might chicken out and just leave without telling him at all! I could move out while he's at work and come back after he gets home from work!

What I want to do it get out...and leave a CD player on the DR table with a note that says...Hit Play! On the CD would be that country song "SHE'S GONE!" LOL

Any ideas??

Deanna

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 11:32am

Deanna...

It's just Pianoguy's opinion, but if you find the prospect of "talking to your old man about a divorce" uncomfortable.....write all your feelings down in a letter, pack up your stuff and split! .

Granted...your husband WON'T be happy after he sees your thoughts 'in black and white', but it might help him to understand (a little better) the reasons you are SO MISERABLE and why you've chosen to leave?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 12:24pm
I agree wholeheartedly with PG. If you think you're in for a round of emotional abuse, just get out. Leave a letter, call from a pay phone after you've left. I for one regretted telling my used-to-be for that very reason. Best of luck.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 8:44pm

I like to write down my thoughts in a letter when I think things might be difficult to say..... but say that you'll call later... perhaps the next day.... to talk.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-02-2004
Sun, 08-28-2005 - 1:36pm
I think a letter and a follow up phone call is best. When you do write and/or call, don't tell him where you are though. There doesn't need to be a meeting in person to discuss things. My ex always wanted to "get together and talk." I don't think so bud. He never put me in harms way when we were married, but I'm not going to open that up now, when he isn't thinking rationally. Go with your gutt, and be safe.

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