How do you get through the holidays?
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How do you get through the holidays?
| Tue, 12-25-2007 - 6:48pm |
I'm very recently divorced after being separated for almost a year. I'm having such a tough time today. I cooked a lovely dinner for my mom, sister and family and my girls, got nice presents from everyone, played games with the kids, ate fattening desserts and just really wanted to curl up in bed and cry all day long.
The girls went to the OW's house to see their dad and it kils me to hear about how happy they are. Don't get me wrong - I want XH to be happy - just not with OW. Does that even make sense???
Anyhow, I'm trying hard not to let the girls know how much I am hurting but it's so hard. I miss the Christmases when we were a family, did things together, played games together, etc.,
Ok - sorry for the pity party-just needed to whine :)


Grace,
I am in the same boat. I saw my estranged husband briefly today--I had him and my brother over for lunch--and when he left, I actually started crying! I tried so hard not to, but I don't know what came over me. I stood at the kitchen sink and the tears started gushing. He didn't want to be with me any longer than he had to. Then when he got home, he must have felt bad, because he called to thank me, again, and said that I could come over to his place, that that would be "fine."
I want to be loved and wanted, but that won't be what I get this year.
I am sorry you are experiencing the same pain. Know that you're not alone, and that the day is almost over! ;)
Hugs,
M
I am begining this endeavor. I have no words of wisdom other than I am feel the same heartbreak and my heart goes out to you.
Hang in there...it has to get better.
Hi
I can't offer many words of wisdom for you just letting you know I feel the same pain. We had been married for over 20 years and I have been living with my boys for over two years now. He has moved on from OW to another woman and has moved in and is living with her and her two girls. I seem to have a hard time getting out in the world to date, I needed time for me these past two years but now I feel like I should be out there.
He came over Christmas to exchange gifts with the boys and had dinner and he couldn't seem to wait to leave. I haven't been feeling the spirit of the season and was crying when he left. Not over him but over the fact that it was so easy for him to move on and I am finding it so hard.
I understand you wanting to curl up in bed and stay there, I so badly wanted to do the same thing. I know it gets better, I have been better myself. I truly do think that the holidays are a trigger and we are bombarded with advertising about families being together etc.
I just wanted you to know that your not alone and I know that we will all get through.