how do you handle..

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Registered: 05-25-2008
how do you handle..
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Mon, 05-26-2008 - 12:29am
How do you handle not knowing what the ex is doing if you hope to save the marriage? My ex left me Friday with 6 kids at the time to care for, I now have 5 as one was temp. so he KNOWS I am not out partying and sleeping around, but how do I handle NOT knowing what hes doing or with who? I did hear he went out last night, and I havent heard from him since yest. morning, how do I deal with it if I want to save our marriage? Say he comes back and we want to work it out. How do I deal with not knowing if he has slept with other women??
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Registered: 12-19-2001
Mon, 05-26-2008 - 7:29am

I am so sorry you are going through this.

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Registered: 03-30-2008
Mon, 05-26-2008 - 7:35am
I had a rough time with this at one point too. Then I realized all those things he MIGHT be doing (my H is an alcoholic) are the exact reasons I don't want to be with him. Kinda good riddence to bad rubbish. But it didn't happen immediately. I had the insomnia, the wondering, the outbursts at him...so give yourself time. It's only been since Friday night. Did he show like he said he would (was that yesterday)? Hang in there.
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Registered: 05-19-2008
Mon, 05-26-2008 - 12:54pm

That is so hard to deal with.