how to explain to my ex
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how to explain to my ex
| Fri, 04-28-2006 - 10:39am |
I don't know if this is the right board. but here it goes. I married this man for reasons that no longer exist. I love this man. However since we were married his attitude towards life has gone downhill. He is so negative. we only lived together for 5 months when he left. We are still married on paper. We see each other every once in a while. We were trying to work it out then it just got convienent. I have decided I do not want all the pain and stress he has caused. I want a divorce. I know he will sign the papers. I am just afraid to tell him. He can get very verbal sometimes. I was just going to try to make it easy as possible. Have him sign the papers in public right then and its over. I can go to court and file it. Nothing big. He just seems to get emotional. I do not know how to handle it. He usually gets emotional and upset and then mad. Then he gets scary after that. I do not need all the extras. I still care about him I just do not want to be married to him. I wanted to make this split as easy as it possibly can be. Short and simple. But his emotional status is hard to judge.

What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
You've gotten some great advice already... but when you talk to him, use the approach that "we both know this isn't ideal or what we expected, and I think that maybe we should clear up the loose ends so that we can fix this because it's not working like we'd hoped it would."
If you phrase it like that, you're "convincing" him that "we" aren't happy and that this isn't what "we" were shooting for.... rather than saying "I'm not happy."
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~