How to get a divorce? Help!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
How to get a divorce? Help!
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 9:28pm

I am in what feels like a dead marriage and need out. We have been together for 7 years. I am totally overwhelmed. The first issue is that my husband is always hurting my feelings. I try to stand up for myself and tell him that the things he says are hurtful. His response is always the same " don't take things so personal". They are my feelings so they ARE personal and I am his wife. He has started to say or do hurtful things around other people. Then I am always asked why I put up with that.


The second issue, is that I am not in love with him any more. I look at him and feel no attraction. We are intimate a few times a year.


Lastly, I want to have children but not with him.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 7:46am

Bold,


First of all, you need a plan. Physically leaving is possible any time, but you need to think through what it is you are seeking. To that end, I suggest you seek personal

CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 4:00pm
Thank you for reading my post and your
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 07-31-2008 - 9:16pm

Hey.... cl-wisdomtooth gave you some great advice!


Ya know.... every time he says "don't take things so personal"..... he is seriously dismissing YOUR feelings, and in a MARRIAGE... where you are supposed to care about each other's feelings.... that's just a lame cop out.


I mean, if he said it once and it was more teasingly.... OK... but when you are seriously talking about *the* relationship... that's just low down and uninvested... in my opinion.


Hang in there!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~