how to handle ex who blows off his kids

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Registered: 10-30-2004
how to handle ex who blows off his kids
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Wed, 03-08-2006 - 5:21am

I am constantly at odds with my ex about the amount of "time" he gets the kids. He basically complains if he gets more time or if he had to have them for a block of days. Last month he complained because he had them for 4 days because I had to work. He forgot completely that I had the the 6 days prior because it was school vacation. I HAD to work those days in order to get school vacation off and 3 of the days fell on his weekend to have them.

This is his weekend to have the kids again and it's looking like he's not going to show up Friday night. Do I not let them go with him when/if he shows up on Saturday? I'm sick and tired of arguing with him about his time with the kids. He blames my work schedule and says that our daughter's need for after school care is based on my schedule. It is true, she only has to go three days instead of 5 and during school vacation didn't go at all! I hate it because he acts all high and mighty just because he has a sugar momma girlfriend to support him. Like living in her fancy house somehow makes him more than what he is (a deadbeat with a substandard job, no health insurance or retirement).

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 11:37am

i didn't mean that if he doesn't show up then don't send them. what i meant was that if he doesn't show up on friday nite - then YOU and the kids are not going to be there on SATURDAY when he shows up. he will show up - and the house will be empty. when he calls you to ask you where you are - you act surprised and say something like "well, the kids were waiting for you for hours last night WHEN YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO SHOW UP. i assumed something terrible must have happened to keep you from showing up - and not even calling your children, so i took the kids to..... to keep them busy".

but, like i said - ask a lawyer before you try this.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 12:24pm

I agree with checking with her attorney.


While if he doesn't show up (or call) at his appointed time,


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 03-10-2006 - 2:00pm

He has completely not shown up before after having 6 days away from them during the holidays and all I got for an excuse was "I misunderstood". Right! Coincidence that his GF's daughter had a basketball game that night? I think not. He showed up 2 hours late one night because him and "Miss Perfect" had tickets somewhere, but last night in a driving snowstorm he calls and was mad because I was still in town at 7:30 ( I get out of work at 7:30)!

I basically don't have a social life because what's the point of making plans if they are just going to be screwed up? I don't call on my mother unless I really need her so I can go to work.

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