How long did your divorce take??
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How long did your divorce take??
| Mon, 02-06-2006 - 10:12pm |
OK, how long did your divorce take? Or, of you filed, how long have you been waiting to this point? It's been six months now, and I am REALLY starting to get impatient. He always seems to be able to do something that puts the date out. His lawyer fires him for nonpayment, he doesn't hand in what he's supposed to...etc. I am just really getting tired of this hanging over my head indefinitely.

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My d can't come soon enough but since we can't agree on anything ($$) the date just keeps getting push back.
I'm going to guess it might be Dec.
daff
Well, the time leading up to the filing was the long part.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Brenda,
I am sorry that you took my post as a direct attack. To be honest with you, I have a tendancy to hit "REPLY TO POST" after reading the entire thread/conversation, and comment on the whole issue to that point, rather than go back to a specific post/person to respond to. (Maybe I should get the paid membership? Is the format any better?)
Here in Connecticut, we have No-Falut Divorce. If someone wants out, the other person cannot contest, and the reasons don't matter. I wanted out, my Ex developed a gambling problem, that lead him to defaulting our mortgage, stealing from his company, etc. I took my girls and left. Since I was the one that *wanted* the divorce, he decided that *I* don't deserve the child support/alimony/equitable split of assets... so he quit his 120K a year job, and took a 12 buck an hour job.... making my c/s 350 week and alimony 150 week number from the state's program... go down to 125 a week child support. He stole every penny from our bank accounts, cashed in his life insurance policy, forged my siggy on "our" 2004 tax returns, and cashed in on that without turning it over to his Attorney's Escrow Account as he was supposed to... I can go on and on. Well, this man has decided to work part time jobs, under the table, cash, delivering pizza, painting, car repairs, lawn work, snow removal, you name it, he fessed up to doing it at yesterday's deposition... but doesn't consider this INCOME to be considered in supporting HIS CHILDREN. When I said I could "roll over", it basically means I can be divorced from this guy any day this week, or next, and probably could have been close to a year ago... but I want him held accountable to his children. If we separated, and he took his financial responsibilities the way the state required, I would have signed an "agreement", but no way can I let him get away with screwing my kids out of support... Oh, and a side note, he is dad of the year... takes them to the movies, plays games all the time, nothing responsible... no homework, sick nights, doesn't buy sneakers or school lunches, you know all that REAL PARENTING stuff... he gets away with just playing, and not even supporting them financially. I won't allow it to happen.
So, I didn't mean that YOU rolled over. I just meant that my divorce has taken 17+ months so far, because I won't "just agree" to what he has to offer right now. On the bright and very fortunate side for me, I found a fabluous job with an Attorney who is doing my legal work free, since I do "most" of it myself... other than court appearances, etc... I do the documents, pleadings, agreements, etc.
Aside from that, as a pesonal note to you... I feel sorry for you that you want to be married to someone who doesn't want to be with you. I hope that you find the strength inside of yourself to be a strong, independant, happy woman, without a man that only brings you down. Believe me, I had no idea that I had it in me... I was a SAHM for 10 years, no education, hated my marriage, but was "happy" because it was "the norm". We argued about everything (always seemed like it was nothing stuff, but it was always), but we had the house, the cars, the kids, the pets, the vacations, etc.... it's what was "supposed to be". Now, I am working full time, my kids are happy, peaceful children. I have more time to spend and enjoy with them, stress-free, than I did married, and home full time. I found the strength to "do it all" myself, be happy with myself, proud of my accomplishments, and yes, I have been lucky enough to meet a wonderful man who treats me better than anyone in any marriage I know... Unfortunately for me, stagnant, boring, rut marriages is all I know... mine, my friends, etc... WE all deserve to be married to our best friend, who wants to be with us, respects us for being who we are, and treat us with the care, passion, and trust that we deserve.
Hugs to you!
Kerry
Hugs, Brenda
I'm in Michigan. There is only a 2 month waiting period if you don't have children together. I filed on October 5th and was divorced on January 3rd and I did it all on my own.
Sorry yours is taking so long. (((hugs)))
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