How long did your ex's go without.......

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How long did your ex's go without.......
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:11pm

...... seeing the kids?

I know all of our jerk ex's are different but at times they also seem to be the same person. LOL. It's been 2 1/2 months since my ex has seen our son. He will be three the end of November. I still get calls where someone listens and then hangs up. I know it may be him and it may not be.

My son is so great and his dad is missing out on all these wonderful things. How long did it take your ex's to come to their senses and start being a part of their kids lives?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:18pm
Mine isn't quite so bad as that. Your Ex has got to get himself together first. Don't know if he'll ever do it. Don't hold your breath.
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 5:10pm

My ex moved out of state, so he at least has an excuse that he hasn't seen the kids since mid-June. He does not

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Registered: 06-13-2005
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 5:11pm

Mine has not spoken to my daughter for three years. She had an argument with her step mother and instead of him dealing with it, he shipped her back home and doesn't even send her birthday or holiday cards. He still talks to my youngest one and lets her come visit. He has deeply hurt my older daughter.

It is very sad to watch her during holidays and such. And of course when he sends my younger one an airline ticket to see him in the summers. I am kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place. I can stop the contact with the younger one to assuage the pain my older one feels, but then that would hurt my younger one too. He is a jerk!

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 6:40pm

mine went 3 months. Then he wanted to see the kids, then he went another 3 months.... its been great ever since, not perfect, but better. He does cancel, he does rearrange things... but I cant complain.


I would like to think that any man who assists in

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:27pm

Well, my xh lives in New Orleans and the last time he came here (GA) to visit was last October for Joey's birthday party... unannounced... but he was there for Joey which was the important part... He hasn't seen Joey since December though, when his mom took Joey to visit him in New Orleans... there is talk of letting the NOPD rotate out and take an extended leave (with the National Guard's assistance) so there is talk of him coming to GA soon to see Joey... I just hope its not too soon... as we are leaving Sunday for Disney (trip planned for several months now) and won't be back for a week... I can't belive it's been 9 months... but it has been...

*hugs*

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:51pm

5 weeks b/c of the RO.

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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 9:52pm
How HORRIBLE! How old is your dd? Poor baby!
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 5:24am
My ex pretty much ignored the kids for about a year and a half after our seperation, with the exception of a few sporatic visits and phone calls. This was to try to cover up the fact that he was living with another woman the whole time and telling me that he was moving back so we could try and work things out. He had moved out of state. Just found everything out last year and took him to court for child support and custody and since then he has been very nice and pleasant to me for the most part, when he isn't throwing his occasional tantrums because he is finding a lot more weeds in that "greener" grass than he thought and life just isn't working out the way he planned. They hear from him now maybe once a week by phone and average of 2-3 visits a year so far. He plans on moving back in state, so hopefully the kids will get to see him more, otherwise, I don't foresee him making too huge of an effort to see them.
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 8:47am
She will be 18 next month. She went through her sweet 16, getting her license,and now planning her graduation all without any input from him. He won't even acknowledge the cards she sends him. Unfortunately, he is one of those men with no spine.
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 11:01am

Wow,

I cant believe a man can be so selfish and dumb. I feel for your daughter so much. My son is still very young. At the rate my ex is going my son may not even remember him. My ex made twin girls with the ow and then 2 months ago vowed that he knows he cant replace his first born son but he would surely make another one. He was hardly seeing the three kids before he declared this. Now he just walked away from our son. It really pi$$es me off but then I think our son is better off. My ex is a real fool and a jerk. I still cant believe at times he could put the kids he made with the ow before our son, his first born and that hurts.

He did this all because he couldnt have his way one saturday when he wanted to pick him up and I already had plans. He called last minute as usual and I said well I have plans you can get him when I get back. He had a fit. Saying he always has to do things on my schedule etc. Which is so untrue. It's ridiculous.

I hope they wake up soon. Because what they think is really hurting us is actually hurting the kids more.

Good luck honey.

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