How long did your ex's go without.......

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Registered: 06-11-2004
How long did your ex's go without.......
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Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:11pm

...... seeing the kids?

I know all of our jerk ex's are different but at times they also seem to be the same person. LOL. It's been 2 1/2 months since my ex has seen our son. He will be three the end of November. I still get calls where someone listens and then hangs up. I know it may be him and it may not be.

My son is so great and his dad is missing out on all these wonderful things. How long did it take your ex's to come to their senses and start being a part of their kids lives?

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Registered: 06-13-2005
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 12:12pm

You know, I watched Father of the Bride this past weekend on cable and my heart absolutely ached for my daughter. Sure she has my husband to walk her down the isle, but he could never feel those types of feelings as he would for his own daughter.

My x has two daughters with his current wife. He and his wife do not get along but he won't stand up to her because he is afraid of losing these (new) kids. Yet, he will let her alienate him from his oldest daughter. WTF. He and I have been divorced for 15 years. He has been married to her for 13 years and they haven't slept in the same room for at least 6 of those years. They do not vacation together either. I used to feel sorry for him, but I guess you make your own bed. Someday he'll be sorry.

My youngest is afraid to disagree with him or his wife for fear that he will cut her off too. What a horrible way to feel about your father.

I hope your x comes to his senses soon. You're right, it's the kids that suffer.

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 1:19pm

They are amazing arent they. I feel like my ex has chosen the "new twin girls" over our son. The thing is he isnt even with their mother anymore. He left her for the 21yr old he's been with for the past few months. Who knows if they are even still together.

He makes me sick. I just have a feeling that one of these days he's gonna call asking knowing him demanding he wants to see him and it's gonna make me furious. For the last 2 1/2 months he hasnt even so much as had the decency to even call and ask how he's doing. How do you do that. His girls arent better than my son. And that's how he's acting.

I mean I know he's FURIOUS at me for kicking him out, taking him to court for child support but I gave him so many chances to make our family work. he kept cheating, lying. So when I got fed up, I kicked him out. His poor pride is bruised I guess. Poor him.

Hang in there. We'll be okay and so will our kids.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 5:55pm

Have a fun trip!.... and maybe NOW isn't a *good* time for him to see Joey anyway.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 1:46pm

i got divorced wehn my son was three. his father saw him more or less regularly for about 1.5. years after that. then he stopped visiting and stopped taking him for weekends etc. just simply STOPPED. for a while i tried to keep things going but it didn't really work . i tried sending my son to his house for a week or two in the summers and i would get a call the next day demanding to know 'what kind of son *I* raised?'


and now my son is 19 and has no relatinship with his father. his father has tried on ocassion to email him,but my son is not responding.


its sucks, i don't get it, i don't understand how a parent can do this - but that's the way it is.

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