How long is too long?
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How long is too long?
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 5:51pm |
I have always heard that getting through a divorce is like surviving a death in the family -- and the emotions are the same -- bewilderment, anger, sorrow. My divorce was in Feb.2006 and I am at the grieving stage now. Is that normal? Everyone tells me I should be "over it" by now. We were married 20 years and I had a heart transplant 4 months after the divorce so I really have been dealing with two crises at once. But am I malingering too long?
Wallis627

Best of luck to you. I hope everything is going well with your transplant.
Cat
Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7
I would encourage you to look closely at your life and your behaviours. Determine what you want in your life and take daily action to make it so. Don't waste time lamenting the past. The past is gone, it can't be changed. Feel the emotions, accept them and move forward every day.
Everybody else is full of ..... Any of them been in your shoes, lately? New heart, maybe?
Oh my dear... take your time!
Please do be in counseling; it helps so much. And find friends who don't put their expectations on you, but instead say "tell me about it."
M
Dear Wallis,
No, you are not malingering. You have been dealing with two gigantic life altering events. It takes time.
You need to tell "Everyone" they should trying to walk a mile in your shoes ....