How many men raise their children?
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How many men raise their children?
| Fri, 03-09-2007 - 11:58am |
I've seen quite a few posts with women mentioning that after they divorce, they get the kids full-time. Is this a control issue? An attachment issue? A fear issue? Or just a distance issue where one parent is far away? Just curious here - fortunately one of the few benefits of divorce for me is that i will get two wk breaks a month :)
Laurel

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LOL, that is SO funny! Right before I opened your post, I was JUST thinking about the term, "blanket statement." We must be careful that we don't apply it in either instance. Not ALL fathers are bad, and not ALL fathers are good. We need to make adjustments depending on the situation.
My ex never asked for custody of any kind.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
He is making a feeble attempt but I still encourage my son to go because he is HIS father. He needs to know him, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
Thank you for pointing this out! Even though my ex is/was an alcoholic who was very univolved with his kids when we were together, I tried to let him have them and he decided he didn't want them! He hasn't called them since August (but it's been since July since he's spoken to the kids - they REFUSED to talk to him when he did call) and won't respond to my e-mails telling him about the kids. When my son had surgery last year it took him days to respond. That's the kind of dad he is. Although I would love for the kids to have a relationship with someone who is a father to them, HE does not. There is nothing the courts, the kid or I can do to change HIM. You are very right, some dads just don't want to be a part of it, and isn't that sad...
Melanie
I'm asking this because I honestly am interested in your answer...is there EVER a cut off? Is there are level of physical, verbal, or sexual abuse that can no be tolerated? I do agree that every attempt needs to be made for a child to be a part of the other parent's life, but do you feel there are cases where one parent should not have joint custody, or should they always have it, regardless of mental illness, neglect, abuse, etc?
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