how often do you talk to your stbx
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| Tue, 06-26-2007 - 12:01pm |
mine calls me daily. but get this:
he calls me at 8 pm on a saturday night, or 11 pm on a friday night.
do you think he is checking up on me or what? why do men do this? what part of we are getting a divorce and i now have a life without you doesn't he understand?
he called me again last night at 10:40 pm. i didn't answer the phone. i am freaking tired. i get up before 6 am, get my son off to summer school, walk the dogs, go to work, come home, get dinner, tend to everyones needs but mine and he calls me drunk at 10:40 and wants to talk? WTF???
when we were married and i wanted to talk, he was either in TV land or drunk, or sleeping on the couch. we never had conversations, at least for the last 5 years of our marriage.
i want to tell him to stop, but he is rather abusive verbally and quite honestly, i don't have the energy anymore.
any suggestions on how to get this to stop? oh and btw: if i tell him not to call me, he will tell the kids how mean i am to him. :-/
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Edited 6/26/2007 12:03 pm ET by whatabadidea

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he does ask my kids where i am. they hate it. my daughter cries (she is 10). its probably wrong of me, but if he calls their cell when i am not at home, they should not answer. if they do answer, they are under my direction to tell him that if he wants to speak to me, he can call me on my cell. that is probably putting them in the middle, and i've asked him to stop doing that to them but he continues.
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yes, he knows i had an A, prior to our separation and upcoming d. he calls me a Wh*re, blames me, but yet, ironically, he accepts no responsibility for losing job after job because hes a drunk and forced us into bankruptcy and foreclosure on our home. i'm not incinuating that i am an innocent victim, as it took two to screw up this marriage, but come on, man up and accept a little responsibility.
hes such an @$$
Edited 6/27/2007 3:17 pm ET by whatabadidea
Yes, email is impersonal. I think that's a good thing. Being impersonal for a while may send the message that you are detaching from him.
My STBX is complaining because I told him I want all communication via email for a while- until he calms down, but I didn't say that part. He's complaining about it and still calls. I'm going to have to get caller ID to avoid the calls. What a pain.
Hang in there. Some day he'll find something (or someone) else to obsess over.
he called me again tonight at 8:30. i gotta put an end to this in the morning. i will post an update.
christine
What,
Write him an email and let him know that using the phone to verbally harrass someone is ilegal(anti-stalking laws). Tell him you will report futher calls to the police and the telephone company. If he is threatening you over the phone, go to court and get a no contact restraining order.
Hope this helps.
you know what lily
i have sole custody of these children. he has nothing, legally at least. i don't owe him an explanation, or anything. he's damn lucky i allow him to have visitation yet allow carte blanche in contacting any of us. i am way too nice to him
what
so, i told stbx tonight that we should sit down with the kids and tell them that there isn't a snowball chance in hell that dad and i are getting back together. AGAIN!!
i also told stbx to limit his calls. what did i get??
4 more calls which i rolled to vm, one of which called me a Wh*re, another that said to give him my new salary so he can decrease his support. what a f*cking a$$hole.
i hope he rots in hell.
what
The latest my x is accusing me of is sleeping with my lawyer. My lawyer is a good man, happily married and quite frankly not my type. But let alone, after getting out of this relationship it will be a long time before I ever get involved again. Of course I was accused of screwing around during our whole marriage, which I never did. I was never looking, no matter how bad it got at home. Why would I want another jerk in my life? Plus who has the time, working full-time, taking care of 2 kids, keeping the house running while he sat on his ass and drank beer from the moment he got home from work till he passed out.
Just quit talking to him. Who cares if he tells your kids you are being mean? They will figure it out. You are not being mean, just trying to keep your sanity.
GL
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