how to proceed with new man interest

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Registered: 08-21-2008
how to proceed with new man interest
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Thu, 08-21-2008 - 12:33pm

I have been separated for a year, most likely to be divorced in the next few months. I have 2 kids, ages 5 and 12 and have been seeing someone who is also separated-people know we are friends but not that it has become more. We plan to marry eventually and thought it might be a good idea to occasionally do some non-threatening activities with the kids, ie bowling, the zoo etc. My someone has been a family friend a long time and my kids know and love him, but do not yet know (but probably suspect) it is more than platonic.


We have only done a couple of outings, which went very well, but the kids told the STBX about the last one and he blew a gasket. The kids then felt terrible and guilty about a) telling him and b) that the outing took place and they wanted

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 3:28pm

Maybe if your DH is kind of unstable, it would be better to wait until you are officially divorced, or at least til the paperwork is signed, so he can't mess it up.

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Registered: 08-21-2008
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 4:02pm

Our separation was initially

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 4:21pm
I don't see why you feel you have to make up stories for the adults.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-21-2008 - 7:36pm

Since you have children.... and the divorce isn't final... I would tread VERY lightly with anything more than friends as far as the kids... or general public... know.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~