How to Support Youself

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
How to Support Youself
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 11:58am

Hi everyone, I'm new here. Been married for going on 18 years, we have definitely had some very turbulent ups and downs in our relationship. I have depression/anxiety and am unable to handle stressful situations because of this chemical imbalance.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-28-2005
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 2:47pm

Hi,


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 07-23-2008 - 3:03pm
Are you able to work f.t. where you are or get 2 p.t. jobs?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 9:06am

Thanks for your reply Dana, hope everything works out for you. Honestly if I had a daughter I think I'd ban her from dating let alone getting married! I am still undecided as to what to do, but I have so much anger and I think that's a good thing, it motivates you more than being sad and crying.


It's hard to go back to school, not to mention the cost. I think I would definitely move away, it's better to make a clean break than keep running into each other.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2008
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 9:11am

Thanks for your advice. I don't know what I'll do, but I can look for full time work, unfortunately there isn't a lot in our area here, mostly minimum wage service jobs. I would move out of state and make a clean break anyway. I had actually forgotten about being entitled to half the assets, that would certainly help me to find a place to live. Not sure about alimony laws in our state but I can check.


Thismorning we had the usual silence preceded by a violent row over nothing. I took off my wedding ring before going to work (maybe I'll meet a hottie now!) and even put his picture in my desk drawer! I am just so angry and frustrated. The day we do sit down to talk about splitting will not be a civilized discussion I know that. We are both hotheads.


Take care,


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2005
Thu, 07-24-2008 - 6:57pm
I would say try to find another job or a full time job and start getting ready to go.

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