How will I survive anniversary tommorrow
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How will I survive anniversary tommorrow
| Sun, 06-08-2008 - 12:35pm |
I have posted before about how my husband left me 3 months ago. Tommorrow would be are 29th anniversary. Last year he planted me a beautiful rose garden for our anniversary, which is now blooming. I don't know how to make it through the day.I don't think I can. My heart is still so broken, imaging living the rest of my life without my best friend

Hi... I'm sorry you're feeling this way... I've been where you are, and its not easy... My marriage was not as long as yours, but that first anniversary afterwards is hard, either way...
If I were you, I would reach out to your friends... and try to get together with them and stay busy... if that's not an option, I would think about something you want to do--reading a book you haven't picked up yet... going somewhere new... and keep yourself occupied...
You will get through this--I'm not saying it is easy, but you will... I'll be thinking of you tomorrow... Keep us posted...
You will survive...that has been the absolutely worst part of the whole divorce thing-every holiday-we were ten days from our 30th anniversary when papers were filed-I had to file even though he wanted the divorce because I couldn't support myself on retirement pay. I did get to the point of committing myself to "ending it" on two separate occasions but was stopped both times in amazing ways-the 1st was a phone call from a neighbor who had never phoned before and secondly
{{{Hugs}}} ... Daisymaes offered some great advice (tomorrow is Monday, get through Monday). Tomorrow would've been my anniversary, too (13 years); yet, I'm still celebrating although I've been divorced since May '07. I still see it as a special milestone in my life, not so much for my marriage, but for ME. I encourage you to celebrate, also. You see, you still have much to commemorate relative to YOUR phenomenal contribution to the marriage. Try, if you can, just focus on the joy and the positive aspects you've brought to the marriage: nurturing, caring for children, cooking, cleaning, scheduling, multitasking, serving as the "glue", consistency, warmth, comfort zone for family, etc.
Use the time to promote yourself as the CEO of your home, and co-founder of your marriage, you deserve celebration. I know more than anyone how it is easy to allow a man you've been with for so long, whom you've depended on and trusted, yank that away from you and you're left feeling "devalued" and "marginalized", but you ARE special. Do not allow yourself to be defined by your husband; you are a wonderful person, independent of him, remember that.
Seldom are people, as I have found in the case of my ex, able to get away with treating someone in a deplorable way, or abandoning them, walking out on a marriage for callous reasons, for another woman, etc., usually those people get what they deserve. Karma rains down on them considerably. Believe me, it's happening to my ex & I didn't think it ever would!! You can't just treat someone disrespectfully, leave them as if they meant nothing to you and expect to go on living a blissful, happy life, it doesn't work that way. Your husband will regret dramatically what he has done to you and your family--30 years is NOTHING to sneeze at.
Just cherish YOU tomorrow, as I will do the same. You will be in my thoughts. Happy anniversary to us, as beautiful, strong, and genuine women who are more than someone's "wife" or "former wife"; we are remarkable human beings of great conscience, character & courage :)
Happy Sunday ...
{{{{hugs}}}. YOU ARE NOT A WORTHLESS PERSON, please, please understand that the fact that your husband did not honor
Sorry,
Hope you went out and cut yourself some roses today-It was difficult I'm sure and unfortunately there will be more difficult days ahead but lots of good days too.
Try to take it one thing at a time-not even a whole day-I pack one box then focus on another task and some days seem endless but they do pass. Know that many of us were thinking of you today! Have a great Tuesday!