How will you spend the day?

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How will you spend the day?
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 11:21am
For those of you whose divorces are not yet final, do you plan on doing anything special when that day comes? Or, if you are already divorced, did you do something on the day of your divorce? I'm just wondering because I haven't decided yet if I fee like celebrating, or if I just feel like doing some quiet reflection on my own. It's a hard call.

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 12:19pm

I think that it is a combination - there is some quiet reflecting and there is celebration.


I was with a friend in court, she had to go back to work - i couldn't go home,

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 1:47pm
I didn't do either of those things. I walked out of the courtroom a free woman and never looked back. Stopped at a store and bought a sandwich for lunch and came home and changed into my jeans! The papers made the divorce final, but little did I know that I'd still have to deal with him.
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:05pm

Honestly, I don't remember!... Court was that morning, and I know that I went to work afterwards (after I declined my EX's invitation to have lunch together after court---OK, I can do that now, but not that day--he was a sobbing mess).


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 6:53pm

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 7:14pm
Italy... with gay friends..... you're going to have a blast!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 10:00pm

Rebecca...

Italy sounds awesome... what great friends you have... I can't wait to hear more about your trip and all the cool places you will have explored!

*hugs*

Julie

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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 10:08pm

It is a hard call... I know that I didn't know how I would actually feel when I heard the judge advise that our marriage had been legally dissolved... turns out, when the day came, I felt incredible... xh on the other hand advised that he was a lot sadder than he anticipated, even asking ~me~ for a hug afterwards... what the h-e-double hockey sticks?

Anyway, since I really wasn't sure how I would feel, I decided to spend the day with my college roommate, her dh and son... they would understand if I was in the dumps and be able to be supportive, or they would be there to celebrate with me... we had a great day... had lunch together, went shopping... it was great catching up and seeing an old friend!

*hugs*

Julie

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Mon, 01-23-2006 - 9:57am
No doubt about it, I will be happy. Not sure if I will "celebrate", because now, after being separated for 16 months (and it will be at least 2 more months I think) things definitely FEEL done. I did my sad reflecting when I left... I moved on, and am going to continue MY life moving forward, one foot in front of the other... "the papers" won't change much "feeling-wise".
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Mon, 01-23-2006 - 12:01pm
Well, I wasn't sure how I would feel during the proceedings so I took my sister with me. I actually felt quite good about the whole thing. Ex wasn't there, he was one the phone so it wasn't all that bad. After it was over, we went out for a huge breakfast, and then I went to lunch with a friend I hadn't seen for quite some time. That night all of my friends got together for a "divorce party" at a local bar and we danced and had a great time. It wasn't so much a party as it was a time to be with friends and have fun and be supported. I wouldn't change the way the day went for anything.
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Tue, 01-24-2006 - 10:33am
I imagine I'll take time off work and go home for some alone time right afterwards, but I'm thinking about inviting friends over for snacks and drinks that evening.

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