This hurts to much - it's unbearable

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Registered: 08-13-2002
This hurts to much - it's unbearable
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:21pm
I've been seperated since last September. I moved out and made a mistake. My H, found a someone else and in January she moved in with him...up to a month from now i was ok, with my new life, but i came to a point where, i could not bear this anymore, the alternate weeks with the kids, being away from him and my children. I told him how i feel, that i do love him and i want to be with him. He says there's nothing he can do right now, but i have spoken to him, and pleaded over and over..I'm so sad about this, it hurts so much to be in this situation, i just want to go home and be with him, together as a familly again..Today i feel so down,i can't take this anymore, i wish i could change the past, i know i made a mistake, and i just want to fix this..but i'm just don't know what else to do...
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Registered: 06-14-2004
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 2:52pm

Hugs to you. It's hard to handle it when we want things in life that are out of our control. Have you had any counselling to help you deal with this? You may find it helps, not only to help you deal with your feelings regarding your H, but also with what is going on inside yourself. You thought you weren't happy with your H, and now you're not happy without him, but maybe first you need to figure out what it is within yourself making you unhappy. We need to be happy with ourselves before we can be happy with another person. It's easy to think we need to change something external to make ourselves happy, but often even when we get what we thought we wanted we're still unhappy because it's really something inside ourselves that needs to be changed to make us happy.

-sang

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Registered: 08-13-2002
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 3:22pm
Yes, i wasn't happy for most of the marriage, but once i confronted him, and i thought i didn't love him anymore, he tried the best to make stay and make me happy, i was the one who ignored it, thinking i wanted to move on, and find something else, i don't know exactly what came throught me, i was confused, and did it anyways, i know, it was wrong. I know that it won't be easy, but i miss him night and day, and just wanted to be us again...