Husband broke, but I want a divorce

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Registered: 11-20-2011
Husband broke, but I want a divorce
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 8:32pm

We've been together for 6 years and married for three.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 9:30pm


First things first: get the guns out of the house. Place them in storage and take them to someone you trust to keep them. Bottom line: remove them from easy reach. You really don't know if your husband is serious about his threats, but you would be very wise to remove temptation.

Second, your husband has shown his true character since your marriage. You really don't need any more "proof" that he is who he is: a leach, a slacker, an immature person who expects someone else to pay his way.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 3:35pm

Wisdomtooth gave you some great advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2011
Mon, 11-21-2011 - 9:25pm

I don't have any advice to add, but I just wanted to pop in and say that I am in the same boat. We were college sweethearts, but somewhere along the way he decided that me taking care of him while he does the bare minimum to get by is ok. Sadly, I've let him get away with it because I hate conflict. I've gotten to the point where I just can't take it anymore... I've actually stayed while thingse were bad because I felt badly for him, but now I am seeing that making myself miserable so he can be ok is not any better. I've been lurking here for too long, but just wanted to say that I know what you are dealing with... hugs and best wishes

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2006
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 10:31am

Been in a similar situation, as the breadwinner?

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 1:14pm


So, you're spending alot of time avoiding pain that could be over in a few minutes. Grow a backbone and decide to get a life. If you can't face him and you are living in an arrangement that can leave the apartment, then pack up and go.

Good luck. The sooner you do something the better for you.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 11-22-2011 - 3:36pm

Go get the divorce ASAP!