Husband having affair

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2011
Husband having affair
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Wed, 12-14-2011 - 9:20pm

My husband and I have been married for 18 years and hes having an affair. The affair is with an ex of his and he has filed for divorce I know this affair has been going on since at least September.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2011
Wed, 12-14-2011 - 10:03pm
Sorry you are going through this. My husband is onto his second affair in the past year....that I know of...my experience says as much as it might feel like you want him back...you don't. Trust me. Maybe some people change once they get caught , but my soon-to-be ex did not. He just moved onto the next girl. Have more self esteem then I did, and get away from him. You deserve so much better.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 12-15-2011 - 1:48am
You need to consult a lawyer ASAP. He cannot just make you and your son leave like that, If the house was bought after you married, whatever that house is worth is automatically half yours if you live in a community property state. Let him go live with his GF. for a couple of months and see how special she looks after living with her 24/7. Reality will soon set in. GOOD LUCK.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 12-15-2011 - 7:40pm

I agree that you & your kids should stay in the house and make sure you are set financially.

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Thu, 12-15-2011 - 10:19pm

Wife,

The 24yo is an adult and needs to deal with her father's attitude herself. That's not your job.

As for him trying to dictate when you can come and go from your own house, remind him HE decided to cheat and HE can make other arrangements for his trysts.

Get a lawyer. A good one.