husband takes children or me

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Registered: 01-22-2007
husband takes children or me
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Sun, 04-20-2008 - 11:08pm

hi, im 22 with 2 1/2 yr old and a 1 1/2 yr old, both girls, my husband, hes 33. i am native anmerican, he is egyptian. there are so many differences between us. i dont know how long we can keep fakin our lifes for each other...well..the truth has come out and we are going nuts. to a sumwhat depressed level. i dont think i can stay weiyh him.. i dont want to see him.. i dont want o hear anything he says. there is aproblem..hes the greatses sweetest, most selfless person ever. how can i take that aay from our babies.


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Registered: 04-02-2007
Mon, 04-21-2008 - 11:51am

Della,


Don't give up your children. This will not work out in your favor. You can still go to school and have your children. If your dh is around during the day, he can provide the daycare and you can drop off/pick up the kids each day. Otherwise, daycare is a viable option.


I got my master's in nursing full time, while working full time, and caring for my two very young children as the custodial parent. My kids were 1 & 2 when I went back to school full time. You can do this.


Good luck!

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Mom to 5: DS-17, DD-16, DD-11, DD-9, DS-7

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 1:33am

thnx you so much for your response, its always helpful and encouraging to know their are many people who have been in the same situation. your advice was great, and something i already knew deep down in my heart, i think i just had to say it out loud to feel better about it. me and dh are going to give it another try, we love our babies too much to seperate them , hopefully, we can make things work. once again, thnx for ur words. and congrats on making it urself, i know its so hard, and wow...urs is no exception..family, working and school, its almost crazy to belive, but u made it, and you can pass on adive and support to thers, as u did to me. lol


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Registered: 03-30-2008
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 11:34am

I have to agree...don't give up your children...no matter how accomodating or nice he's currently being. My alcoholic husband would love for me to give him more time with the children, but I know he'd use it against me. So I'm sucking up how tough it is being a solo parent, working full time, being responsible for them, the house, the errands, the shopping, etc. for now.


Sure I complain (and cry) sometimes, but I know it's better than trying to fight him in court when he says something negative about my parenting or anything related to custody. Because of his alcoholism and DUIs he's constantly grasping at ways to derail me as a mother. And darn it, I'm a pretty good mom...


Hang in there!