Husband won't get his stuff

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Registered: 10-19-2003
Husband won't get his stuff
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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 4:06pm
As I have written on
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Registered: 06-06-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 5:59pm

I had been using packing up of all my STBX's stuff as therapy-boxes after boxes of stuff he's accumulated during the 30 years we were together. It is amazing-every year he began another expensive hobby-needed the best of whatever went with that hobby and of course

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Registered: 06-21-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 7:19pm

I would say, check with your lawyer first. I gave my stbx an ultimatum to have his stuff out by June 1. He luckily complied even though it was June 4 by the time he got everything out. I am still finding stuff that is his so I just bring them to him and dump them off with him. At first, before he moved everything out, I would gather his stuff around the house and just put it in his office whenever I would find things. I didn't pack it for him but I didn't just throw it in there either and I shut the door. That helped but now that his stuff is completely out it has been a lot better. Still really hard and lonely but at least better. What do you guys think of pictures still up in the house? I have taken every visible photo down except our wedding pic. I guess I'm not ready to store that one yet. It's only been 3 months since he told me he wanted

Phoenix Firebird 08
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Registered: 06-06-2003
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 8:19pm
Pack it up and put it in the garage or somewhere.
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Registered: 06-20-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 10:52pm

If I were you, I would pack up his things and take them to him.....leave them on the front porch, then if he says you threw them out, at least you can say they were at HIS house. Some men are just selfish. He probably left all that stuff knowing it would be in your face and just to be spiteful. I wouldn't just throw his stuff out until you consulted your lawyer first. I agree that it sounds like the court gave him a date and if he ignored that date...well too bad for him. I'm sorry that you still have to see his stuff. My STBX and I still live together and believe me THAT sucks. I'll be moving out a week from tomorrow though. Whatever happens, I hope you can rid yourself of the "garbage" that you don't want.

Good luck
Claudia