I am truly MORE scared now ...
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| Wed, 03-23-2005 - 8:08pm |
We had our 1st meeting together, per court order, w/ Child & Family Services to deal with the visitation & parental alienation that STBX does w/ dd. The only thing i can say is that i am just BEYOND flabbergasted, & quite concered that he is either a sociopath, or that he is so mentally ill that he beleives what he says, or he is so desperate that he will blatantly lie.
The meeting began, not well. I said Hello, he ignored me. She opened up the meeting saying that the goal was to figure out a way to do visitation b/w STBX & dd (5 yrs) that woudl be the least traumatic to the child. We all agreed.
He proceeded to INSIST the following BLATANT lies were the truth:
"He is very concerned for her safety living with me b/c of addiction problems & he cannnot allow me to have sole custody". He kept reffering to this. Let me tell you, i never even so much as smoked POT as a teen. Never, EVER done an illegal, or LEGAL even, mind intoxicationg drug.


All I can do is give you a hug. I'm so sorry this is happening to you.
Melanie
Now you and I are rowing up the same river without a paddle! My STBX has/is always saying that I too am in a drug induced stuper!!! He says that he never hit, choked, or threatened me with my life. He even has the GAL believing that I'm on meth. MY GOD!!!!!! How many more drug tests do I have to do (all are negative for drug and alcohol use) before he stops those allegations! I'm even afraid to take tylenol for crying out loud!!! So my head pounds, my body aches and I live with it...
Be very careful, sweetie! These men will stop at nothing to get what they want as you very well know! They are sick individuals that will continue to harrass and control if they are allowed. Unfortunately, the courts have to follow up on any and all allegations made, so you may be required (as I am) to take random hair follicle/UA's until they are satisfied that the accuser/abuser is crazy! And we know they are!
I have 3 areas in the crown of my head that stick straight out because of the drug tests I have had to do (I look and feel like "Alfalfa")...I now have to do another one, because he swears to the GAL that I am doing drugs...the GAL even contacted my son (22) to ask him how much meth I am on...this purely SUCKS!!! My son is soooooooooo mad that my STBX is doing this to me!!! How do we counter attack these allegations? By once again, doing what they want us to do! They are in control of us again and someone needs to STOP them! However, do those drug tests voluntarily. Make your STBX look like the biggest liar that ever lived...thats what I'm having to do...and let me tell you, HE IS NOT HAPPY WITH ME AT ALL!!!! Like I care what he thinks...
What goes around, comes around...RIGHT?
HUGS, sweetie as I KNOW exactly what you are going through!!!!!!!
I don't have any words to pass along, just that I'm thinking about the two of you and sending out hugs.
Ruth
"How can a FIVE year old dial your phone #???"
Ya know.... let him talk, because he screws himself every time he opens his mouth.... and you're right.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~