I am the wife of liersinner

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Registered: 04-11-2006
I am the wife of liersinner
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:29am
My husband is not telling the full truth here. Not only did he tell me he found his step sister "Hot", but he also said he wanted to have sex with her. He wondered what it would be like, and had thought about what she would look like naked. I found this out after he had spent two days and one night with her at his grandmothers house, without me and without her husband. This made me ill but I still stayed and tried to work things out. Even after he told me if was my fault he wanted that girl I planned a romantic trip for us which we went on to recapture what we had lost. I thought it went well. Although I wept a lot on the trip and begged him not to talk or see her again. And he wept and said he wanted nothing to do with her that he loves me more than anything, and so I thought he was being genuine. We get home and a few days later I find out not from him but after doing some investigating that he was still talking to her over the phone while he was at work. In fact he called her the day after we got back from our trip first thing in the morning. Anyway when I found this out I left. Then the step sisters husband called me. He said he had been trying to get a hold of me. He thought something was goning on too besides brotherly and sisterly love. He had listened in on one of there conversations and my husband was telling this woman he loves her, and that he was so happy to have been able to spend time with her and her son. Also of course that he would like to see her again. Now of course to cover his ass my husband is saying it was all this girl, saying she wanted to be with him and to leave me. Even if this is what she was telling him he did not have to talk to her, he says he was just being nice. I think they are both sick individuals. I have recieved my cell phone bill since then and It did show she called him four times all on the same day July 24th he called her 12 times all on different days and talked form a total of 177 minuets. Now who was chasing who here. This whole ordeal has made me ill to the point that i am throwing up and not eating. He wont leave me alone he keeps calling me, comming up to my work, using our children as a tool to get me back. He has even told me he will destroy me If I leave him and find someone else, that nothing will stop him, not even going to jail. The sickest thing of all is that I still love him although I hate him. You can't turn eight years off just like that. I don't know what to do. Now i wish he woud have went with her so he could be her problem. I am torn between loving this sick man and needing my sanity, and wanting to be safe and happy.
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Registered: 11-10-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 12:13pm
Two marriage partners airing their disagreements on a public message board is not going to solve anything. You two either need to get a divorce or get into intensive marriage counseling. The children are going to be the ones to suffer, as they always are....
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:11pm

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