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I broke into his email
| Wed, 10-12-2005 - 10:34am |
I broke into his email today and saw engagement pictures....he's going to get married to her and he hasn't even divorced me yet....oh my god!...what do I do. what do I do...
someone please help me...
Edited 10/12/2005 11:20 am ET by goddess_athena_99
someone please help me...
Edited 10/12/2005 11:20 am ET by goddess_athena_99

First of all let me say, I am so sorry for what you are going through. That being said you have got to find a way to stop torturing yourself. Are you in couseling? I have a tendency to get totally wrapped up in STBX's relationships. It can make you absoluetly NUTS! I mean out of control, head spinning crazy. Trust me I have been there. My friends have been there to point out how obsessive I was becoming. I know it's hard but, try to take a step back and look at yourself. You can get through this and you will find someone who treats you like you deserve. Next time you find yourself wanting to call him or check his email call a friend instead. Hang in there and try not to let yourself spin out of control.
Hugs,
Jessica
Thanks Jessica,
Yes, Yes you are right. I call it that too..."spinning". I don't want to spin out of control. I don't want to be like this. I'm trying to hang on and I'm trying not to be obsessed. I try to take a step back but I can't see me. I don't know what to look forward too. Everyone says keep your mind on something else, but all I was, was this marriage. I worked hard on it and did all I could to save it but still failed. I just see the failure. That's my problem and now I obsess over him like I did in the marriage. I just wish I could wake up in a couple mounths from now.....I don't have many friends as a result so I really need some strength from here....
You sound so much like me. I was the same way, I tried so hard to keep the marriage together, worked on it everyday. I found myself lost when he kicked me out, but I honestly don't know what happened. Seems one day I got up, I found a single girlfriend we started loafing together, and boom I met an amazing guy. He is so sweet, it's only been 2wks since we started seeing each other. We both agreed to go slow and maybe something will come out of this, we both want the same things, and strive for it. It can happen, and it can happen over night. It was like I went from curled up in the floor one night balling my eyes out, to singing a new song the next night with a wonderful man with flowers beside me. Very ironic, we went to school together and hadn't saw each other in over 8months but it's unreal. It will happen, you need to get out and make it happen, don't look for it it will come to you trust me.
Good luck to you, I would love to hear more from you, vent all you want.
Stacy