I can't get in contact with him!

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Registered: 04-21-2006
I can't get in contact with him!
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Sat, 10-01-2011 - 1:26pm

My son lives with me during the week, his father or grandmother pick him up from school on fridays and he stays the weekend with them. BTW, this is

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-01-2011 - 10:17pm

Honestly maybe you are texting him about so many issues that he's getting tired of hearing about it and now he thinks you are just a nag.

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Sat, 10-01-2011 - 11:21pm

Sorry that I wasn't specific in my first message. It's kind of hard to express the entirety of a situation sometimes when you are writing an email. My STBX and I do communicate mostly through text however, even this happens very rarely as I try to keep communication with him down to the very minimum. The less I speak to him, the better off I am. We may text the most twice a month so him being bombarded with text messages from me is definitely not an issue. And as far as bathing my son goes, he has Eczema and has developed severe rashes in certain places as a result of it. We have been treating the rashes with prescription meds for quite some time and they are under control for the most part. Most of them have even dried up. However, when he is not cleaned on a daily basis, his eczema flares up due to sweating and irritation and therefore causes him to scratch and it can go from nothing to extremely bad with in the matter of 2 days. My son often goes to visit his dad with no signs of a rash in a particular place and then will return to me with raw sores because he is not being kept clean. When he is clean (this is when his grandparents give him a bath), he returns to me with no new rashes. I have discussed this with my ex several times and I'm just at my wits end with this entire rash situation. I have taken my son to the dermatologist and he explained that if I use the prescription medications on my son and his father doesn't, they will never ever go away because they need to be treated and cleaned on a consistent basis. So in his case, going 2 days without a bath is a very big deal. As far as my STBX girlfriend, you just proved my point... I

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Registered: 06-23-2011
Sun, 10-02-2011 - 9:09am

I totally see where you are coming from. I have 4 kids, and currently share custody on a 2/2/3 scedule with my STBX and it's so hard on the kids because of his lack of caring for them. Let me just say that while they were with them, and this is the short list- my daughter was touched innappropriatly and is now in counseling, my 6 yr old son got kicked in the penis so hard by his dad (accidentally) that he was bruised, my 8 year old broke his foot while the kids were all home unattended, and the latest is that he got them a kitten even though my 12 year old is severly allergic. That said- I have learned to let the fact that he doesnt shower them when they are with him go. Trust me, I feel your pain when your son goes to school looking like a hobo after being with Dad. My duaghter has gone in pj's that are 2 sizes too small, unshowered for 4 days. He doesn't give the kids vitamins either, and they eat junk food when they are with him despite my 7 yr old having a thyroid tumor and needing a healthy diet. Not to mention they don't do home work,

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 10-02-2011 - 12:10pm

Well now that you mention the eczema it's a different situation.