I can't stand it much longer!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I can't stand it much longer!
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Sat, 12-09-2006 - 1:37pm

I am about to start climbing the walls if we don't make some progress with finalizing this divorce soon or at least I need to get some space while everything goes through the process. I told my husband I wanted a divorce three and a half months ago, and every day since then has been a struggle. We still live in the same house (because I own it and make all the payments on it, and because he refuses to move out) and I can't seem to hurry this process along any faster. He's intermittently cold or angry and mean, and it just makes for a toxic living space for our 10 year old son and me. I considered having him evicted, but honestly he wants to buy the house from me and I want that to happen as well (he's got multiple unfinished "home improvement" projects that I would gladly turn over to him and good riddence!). I can't move out because I can't afford rent AND a mortgage payment, and I don't trust him to pay the mortgage for me until he gets his financing worked out to buy the house from me. Every time I check in with him about whether he's made progress getting financing so we can make this deal happen, he's vague about what's going on with his end. I don't know how to speed this up, but I feel more and more claustrophobic every day we spend living in the same house. If I could get rid of my husband and this crappy house I'd move out today!

Just needed to vent...

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 5:12pm

I hear ya.... my EX and I lived together while we were divorcing (we sold our house).


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 12-15-2006 - 7:17pm
Do you have a basement? You could do what my "sweet" husband did to me when he wanted to live separately under the same roof. He threw all my clothes and other items that were in the bedroom down in the basement and then put a lock on our bedroom door. He said if I got a locksmith in, then he would put a new lock on. This lasted a month until I couldn't take it anymore and moved out. THEN, he had the audacity to tell me, "You can't do that. Did you get your attorney's permission?" That was a year and a half ago and I still can't get rid of the SOB. Hopefully it'll all be over March 7th when we go to court for permanent orders. I hope you have much better luck than I've had. I would push for him to either buy the house from you, or perhaps put it up for sale.
Belinda
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Registered: 06-13-2004
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 8:28pm

I have been there done that, my X served me with my D papers in Nov of 2003,he continued to live in our home all of 2004,while his new house was being built. He never spoke to me the whole time he was living here.


My D took a few months shy of 3years to be finalized. Basically the only ppl who gets rich over a D are the lawyers. I think one of the reasons my D took so long was because my X did not want to pay me the amount of alimony I needed to survive,now keep in mind his annual salary is over 80thousand dollars and mine is 30thousand.


I now have to live hand to mouth as I had to refinance my house for another 30years and I only got alimony for 10years,so after 10years not sure how I am going to survive.


My lawyer was shocked that one month after filing for D the X went out and bought land that cost him 30thousand dollars and a new home and a new car. all of this and the idiot was crying about having to pay me alimony. What an A hole.