I can't stop crying.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2011
I can't stop crying.
Sat, 08-06-2011 - 6:16pm

Hello everyone,

I have been married for 20 years and I asked him to leave.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2001
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 1:37pm

I am so so sorry you're going thru this!! Sigh.....how do we all go thru it? I don't have the answer, other than one day at a time, with hope and perseverance. I know you'll hear this often but it gets easier. When I was told that it didn't really make me feel any better but now after a year being divorced I understand what they meant.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2011
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 6:08pm
Thank you. I do appreciate it.

Today is a bad day. Husband saw an attorney. My stomach won't stop hurting.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2006
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 7:02pm

Community Leader
Registered: 01-03-2004
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 9:12pm

Hi JS,

Very often the person who wants out of a marriage will experience the same sense of loss and grief as the person who is left.

In your case, why did you ask your husband to leave? That may be key to his behavior and your own, especially if you felt the only answer to whatever is troubling your marriage seems to be to have him move out.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2011
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 1:30pm

I am so sorry for your pain.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2011
Tue, 08-09-2011 - 8:35pm

Time, time, time.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2003
Wed, 08-10-2011 - 9:45am

Interesting comment. I don't have any children or close family nearby. People at my church are saying "If you need anything, call me", but, I'm not sure what I need. I'm going to try to move furniture today, and if I can't do it alone I'll call at least 1 of the people who made the offer and see what happened.

I know that time WILL help, but, I want that time to pass a heck of a lot faster than it is! I know the next year will bring MANY firsts I have to get through and I want them done!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-09-2011
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 7:36am

Can you tell me your story, I am new to this, is it similar to mine? my husband ran one saturday tea time, after 25 amazing years, no warning, no signs, just left devastation and excuciating pain in his wake for me, our 3 sons and everyone that knows us. I need help and hope as everyone else does here, Thanks for reading...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 8:37am

I'm so sorry that you're hurting, js590.