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I caught him now what
| Fri, 08-03-2007 - 6:30pm |
My question is if I caught him in an affair do I go for that angle in the divorce or do I stick with irr differences. I have cell phone records to someone (who he has also introduced to my kids) and I found something else also. I dont want to drag my kids through some longer more painful process if really I am just going to get the same as I would anyway.
Any advice would be great
shop girl

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I'm glad that you're meeting with an attorney.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Shop Girl,
(Do you look like Claire Danes?)
It depends on the state/county you are in. I live in Ohio, and cheating on the spouse is not grounds for divorce!
If your state allows cheating as grounds, then you need objective evidence: pictures, DNA stains, witnesses. Anything else is conjecture and theory, but not proof.
Since you have her cell phone message, go visit a seedy bar and sneak into the men's room, and write her cell phone number on the walls with the appropriate skill set you think she can offer.
Thank you so much for your advice. He will never admit til the day he dies and I dont know if I am up to dragging it out for 18 months why we wait for court etc. It will also cost me alot more money and that is a good reason not to do it. I am supposed to have the papers to me by Tuesday to go meet with my lawyer. Wish me luck if all goes well I will be divorced in 30 days.
Thanks for all you do to help people deal with this horrible time, Your advice has been so helpful over the past few months.
Shopgirl
Hi Taynjay. I live in CT, we have no fault divorce. they don't care what you did to each other. The court basically just divides up the assets. So it's good that you are going to a lawyer and you can get the answers. My concern is custody. My stbx is so abusive and an alcoholic, but he can present such a phony front, and he's so manipulative of my son. I'm going for joint custody, with primary residential. Wildlucky just gave me some insight into that. My son will be mad about the residential, but I need to get him away from his father full time. It was the other night when his dad accused my son of trying to kill him that I knew I had to get him out, evn if it makes him furious. And I'm taking him to counseling next week.
By the way, I love oldnimrod's advice! She's a riot!!