I feel Cheated.
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I feel Cheated.
| Sat, 06-30-2007 - 8:56pm |
Hi!. I got married eight months ago, after almost four years of going out with my now soon to be ex H. I guess if I'm really honest,all our relationship I knew things weren't quite "good". We fought a lot and he always was more worried about his family than our new plans and life together. His father uddenly died 5 months before the wedding and he was very depressed. But..we got married, his mother never stopped crying at the wedding, by the way, really annoying. We had a really nice honeymoon and everything started very nice. We began fighting about a lot of stupid things again. I knew we didn't had much in common, but I really love him. Even though we went out a long time, he started complaining that we lived in an apartment that was my family's. That he didn't made enough money, that he didn't like my friends or that I liked to go out etc. etc. Then He got laid off, and things got really bad. Huge fights that turned a bit violent we left very early and came home at 9, was very stressed out and finally he decided he didn't want to live in that apartment ' cause it wasn't his..but we didn't had enough money to move AGAIN, so we moved with my parents.. !?? after 2 months, we quarreled about a stupid thing..and he left. He went back to his mothers place. He said He was not happy, that he made a huge mistake marrying me and that he didn't love me. He blamed everything on me and was really mad. He said his family needed him and that he couldn't stand mine. I haven't started divorce papers yet. Here in Mexico, you can't get a "simple" divorce until you have been married at least a year. I feel really sad!! I never even enjoyed my married life! I guees I have to asume that I made a mistake.I'm 35 years old, who spent 4 months in a fake marriage and now I have to start over again. My apartment is there..empty. with still all my clothes and furniture there. I go once a week to bring clothes as I'm staying with my parents. Now he sais that he misses me, but that he is going through a very difficult time, no job, mother needs him, debts, etc. And tells me to be patience!! I don't know for what or how. I'm really confused and sad. And I feel that part of all this is my fault for not beign what I was supposed to be.
I really need a kick in the head right??
I really need a kick in the head right??

No kicks from me, just a HUG!
Hmm, I really don't know what to say. I would move back to your apt. if you can afford it on your own.
And then, take the year Mexico requires and see what happens. Prepare for divorce, but just take your time. Sounds like you probably made a mistake, but who knows, at this point.
I am sorry, of course, because it hurts no matter what. Not what you thought you were gonna be dealing with, I know.
Hang out here and let us know how you are.
M