I filed...

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Registered: 02-02-2008
I filed...
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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 7:41pm

Hello, I am new here at iVillage..I just wanted to find someplace where i could put all my thoughts and feelings and talk with others like me.. I am almost 28, husband almost 30


I filed for divorce from my husband this past Thursday...Now, he didn't hit me, or cheat on me, or anything like that.. But for the past few years i felt ignored and last on his list..He is very immature and doesn't understand..


History-we have been together since high school..The only way i can put it is, i grew up and he didn't. He also likes to spend money but didn't want to work for it.. so he's basically been spending my money.. I make about $40k/year and he makes $200/wk! I wear the same clothes to work week after week.. He's always getting new shoes and jeans...Anytime i brought it up, he just got angry...He was also working third shift, so he was home while i was working and i had no control over his money habits.


His family is very overbearing.. They all rely on him and expect him to do things for them at a drop of a dime. If we have plans, they get angry! He plays on a Dart team with them and that takes precedence over everything else..nothing can happen on wednesdays! The last straw for me was, last month my grandmother died and the wake was 2-4 and 6-8 on wednesday, he came for the first one but still went to darts at night!


I have been trying to tell him for about 2 years how i felt.. I even actually went to see a lawyer and my husband ended up talking me out of it and we went to counseling, but obviously it didn't help..Any time i tried talking to him, he either interrupted me or said "what did i do now"..


He freaked out when i told him..Extreme crying, "i am so in love with you" , etc etc..I was like listen.. you should have thought about this before

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Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: justamanda2008
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 11:40am

Some guys just never grow up.


Its like they are stuck at age 18 and try to stay cool.


It stinks but I have a feeling that you will do well.


Hubby needs someone to explain to him what being a "Man" is all about.


BobK