I have decided to file for divorce
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| Sun, 07-17-2005 - 11:56am |
I have lurked here for several months. I have asked questions about child support, money, actually filing for divorce, etc. I just wanted to thank all of you for being supporting and answering my kindly and honestly whenever I had questions. luvred, first, rosemile, outofmymind, sk1960, the CLs, eatatmoms, and rlch (to name just a few!) have really inspired me with their stories.
I have decided to file for divorce. Although my STYX does not want an attorney, I am going to see one on Tuesday (the same attorney I used 2.5 years ago when I filed, but we decided to reconcile). I am truly tired of being alone and lonely in this marriage. I can not be with someone who never comes home and wants nothing to do with me, physically, or emotionally. Someone who I have allowed to financially abuse me (even though I work full-time) for years. Someone who has not supported me furthering my education.
While a part of me does still care for him, I must do this for myself. Even though I am going to have to move myself and my son into a not-so-lovely apartment for a while, I have to move on with my life. We have been together for 12 years, married for 7.5. I was reviewing my journals the other day, and realized we have never been happy together for more than a few weeks at a time. I have already let too much time pass. I am 31 years old, and I deserve peace and happiness in my life. I deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Thank you all for helping me realize that. I hope to get to know all of you better.

I'm so glad that I
Hi Justiceandtruth,
I am new to this group, and just wanted to say how brave and smart you are for doing what is best for you and your son. I have been with my husband 12 years, 7 of those in marriage. I thought we had a good marriage, but around a year ago he fell into a depression and wound up meeting someone on the internet that he thinks he loves even though they never met. I gave him anything he wanted and never ever yelled or argued with him, but that did not matter. I had him move out a couple months ago, and filed for divorce but he said he could not sign the papers b/c he was not sure how he felt. We have a 5 year old and almost 2 year old, and I know I cant been kept in limbo and need to do what is best for me and the kids, but I keep trying to give him another chance. Is that wrong, Is this OW someone he is really in love with or just in love with the idea of her. She is 10 years older then him and has a teenage daughter. After reading your message it does give me hope that one day I can be as strong as you and end it without looking back and finally stop worrying. If you want to chat sometime, send me a message.
Take Care and Good Luck
rockclover