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| Wed, 06-14-2006 - 5:15pm |
I felt like crud yesterday after everything. I emailed my attorney to give him a run down and this is what he sent back.
"______'s lawyer told me today that she would send me an updated order. I really don't want to stop his antics. I know this is hard but the person who is the most reasonable gets the kids. I don't think there will be much of a problem getting custody; especially since he has abandoned the older kids and plays favorites with ______. However, (and remember I said this before) it is going to be rough on the kids and you also. At this point, I want you to stop talking to him. You have nothing to discuss as he is all about control. He is very angry at this point because I am pushing very hard to see about the CDs in his mother's name. I have sent several requests and they are incredibly angry. That is why you are getting nowhere with him. This will not be over until the end of the year. The court will not hear another temporary issue. He will only hear a final. As bad as it sounds, to ensure custody is a slam dunk, I need him to continue to show his ass as a parent. I need him to continue to play favorites. You be the strong parent and tell ______ that living with his father is out of the question and make ______ stop talking about it. I am playing some hard ball with them behind the scenes. He is very uncomfortable. His lawyer told me that he expects you to "start realizing that this family will not be divorced." I did not tell her that this marriage is finished. He still thinks that his property (YOU) will be returning to him soon; complete with an apology and contrition. That way, he can punish you for the rest of your life. GET out NOW. I'll get you divorced in a few months. Come in this week if you need to or come out to the house. We may not enter into mediation. Still thinking about that one. No order from the Judge yet, either and he is in Mexico this week. Don't talk to _____ about anything else for awhile. Tell him to have his lawyer call me. All communication can be through the lawyers for awhile. He is getting your attention whether you realize it or not. You are doing well. I know it is very uncomfortable to see the kids suffer. Remember that we talked about this. One parent will show that she is able to properly parent and the other parent will show that he wants to cause trouble and be a "friend" of the kids instead of a parent. At least he is predictable. You are, too. Stay strong and don't talk to him."
You know, as corny as it sounds, I am thinking of printing and framing this email and hanging it for insperation. It really picked me up last night.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~