I hired an attorney...

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Registered: 02-04-2006
I hired an attorney...
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Tue, 03-07-2006 - 10:36pm
So, I've hired an attorney. $2000K retainer and $200/hour. I'm doing alot of paperwork and court filings myself, needless to say. My husband has no idea. After his last explosion (he has been an emotional, verbal abuser our entire marriage of 11 years) 1 week ago, he has yet to say he is sorry for what he did. (Threw our 7 year olds cereal bowl across the room because she was crying and didn't stop when he said so). He actually stated tonight, as he tried to start a discussion about how I am responsible for his actions and he is only expressing his emotions and anger is an emotion and its natural to express anger (intimidating, punching counters/walls, throwing, threatening, etc). What a head case. Anyway, my biggest concern is telling him I am filing for divorce. My attorney states to tell him the day I call her to tell her to have him served, either through phone call or email. I am so anxious and scared of his reaction that the email idea is the way I'll probably go. Anyway, my attorney is TOUGH. She said to take the girls (2) away for spring break and have him served. The papers will state that I am filing for temporary sole and exclusive use of the house and custody of the girls. He is going to LOSE IT. He as stated before he will never allow me to cause him to not see his daughters on a daily basis. He has definately psychologically damaged them. They are fragile sometimes, so afraid, walking on eggshells. I want them evaluated by a court appointed psychologist, along with HIM. I'll do it, as he will probably request it, saying I am a head case, blah blah...I also want what is solely best for our daughters. I know maintaining a civil relationship on their behalf only is a wonderful thought, but I do not think he is capable of that. He is so vile, vindictive, raging at times. Lovely state, Florida, that I live in won't remove him from the home unless he physically hits me. He will be given the option to have belongings removed from the house and find alternative housing, while we work this out. What are any of your experiences with a hostile, violent, vebally and emotionally abusive disturbed husband and his reaction when served divorce papers, that are asking him to move out of his home? Thanks, Cathy
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:46am

Hi Cathy..... No, "he will never allow me to cause him to not see his daughters on a daily basis".... but he will allow himself to not be able to see them daily.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~