I just don't understand...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I just don't understand...
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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 2:32pm

So, my ex is late with the first of his resumed alimony payments. I sent him an e-mail reminder Friday. I worded it nicely, just inquiring as to when intends to pay. I told him I assumed he would keep the same schedule as before. He ignored it. This leads me to believe he is up to something.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE??? If you have a court order stating you must pay someone a certain amount every month for a certain amount of time then you should just do it. In addition to my ex-husband, I have a loser ex-boyfriend who owes me almost $4,000. I stupidly lent it to him 2.5 years ago while I was dating him (4 months total). He promised to repay me within 2-3 months. HAH! I took him to small claims court last fall. Of course I won, because I had thoroughly documented everything. I was awarded the original amount plus court costs plus interest. We agreed he would pay me $100/month until it was settled. He has paid me exactly $200-the last time was in January and that was for December’s payment. He is currently 5 months behind with another payment due 06/03. He claims he just can’t pay. That I am not the only person who has a judgement against him and that I should just wait in line! Like I said- L-O-S-E-R!!! I can't believe I was so desperate for attention (because I was ignored by my ex-husband) that I sunk so low as to date him!

It is just infuriating. I have already taken so much time out of work to deal with these issues. I don’t want to contact my lawyer about the alimony because that will only incur more fees. I don’t want to go back to small claims court on the other issue only to have the judge reduce his monthly payment. I just want what is rightfully mine and to be done with both of them!

Thanks for letting me vent!

Karen

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Registered: 06-13-2005
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 8:41pm

If you take your husband back for not complying with a court order, more than likely, he will be responsible for at least half, if not all of your attorney's fees. He is in contempt and is willfully disobeying a court order. The way the judge sanctions them for disobeying an order is to make them pay the petitioner's attorney's fees. They will usually give them 30 to 60 days to pay. At that point, if they still fail to comply with the order, generally a bench warrant is issued for his arrest. He will not be able to get out of jail until all of the past alimony payments as well as the fees are paid to date.

As far as the loser boyfriend, does he own propery or a house? If he does, you can place a lien on it so that if he sells, he will have to pay off the liens first. I know you will have to wait a while, but in the end, he will come out the loser.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-31-2006 - 9:35am

Thanks. My ex was already, technically, in contempt when he ceased his payments without permission from the court. He took ME to court. He lost on all counts. He put in a motion to reconsider. Again, he lost. He owed me 10 months of alimony in arrears, which he has paid. He also had to pay my lawyer’s fees, which he has paid to her and she is holding in escrow waiting for his final payment for her rebuttal to his motion to reconsider. He was also ordered to continue the payments forward (he has 33 left) but for some reason he is not doing this.

As for the loser ex-BF he owns NOTHING. When I met him he supposedly had a “lucrative” painting and remodeling business. As time went on though, things started to seem suspicious. But, it was too late. I had already given him the money. He drives a 1988 pickup truck with his company name on the side. (The truck is older than my daughter!) It was always breaking down. I loaned him money to fix it. At one point he was looking at buying a new truck, borrowing money from me for the down-payment and having me co-sign the note. The payments would have been over $500 a month. My divorce was not even final, so I told him no because I did not want include it on my financial affidavit. He could never make his rent, so I would bail him out. The whole relationship lasted only 4 months before I smartened up and ended it. My family saw him for what he was (my father ran a background check on him and found out he had a prison record!) and so did my children. I was just so neglected by my ex-husband that I was blinded by the attention my ex B/F gave to me. It was a very expensive lesson.

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Registered: 06-13-2005
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 8:56am

Then you need to take the x back to court again. He is still not in compliance with the court's order.

As far as the loser boyfriend, seek garnishment of his pay since you already have a court order. You can also report it as a bad debt to the credit agencies.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 9:32am

I sent my ex an e-mail yesterday. He decided payments will be the last day of the month-they used to be the 21st (WHATEVER!). The court was not clear, so I guess I will let him have that little victory. Supposedly he mailed it yesterday.

As for the other loser (ex-BF), he is self-employed so it would be difficult to attach his pay. Funny though, he always had the money to buy pot. That should have been a big clue for me, especially since I never do that stuff. I also sent him an e-mail yesterday. I told him to grow up and get a real job so he can pay his debts. Of course, I got no response.