I just want to curl up and

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Registered: 08-16-2006
I just want to curl up and
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 7:20pm
die. I have posted before. I have left my marriage after 15 yrs of living with a severe alcoholic. I am on my own, supporting my family, and trying to forge ahead with a positive attitude. I thought I was doing alright and staying strong for my kids. Today my Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer that has metastazied to his bones and lymph nodes. They are only giving him less than 3 months. He has been our rock. He has been the hero to my 10 year old son that has been so dissapointed by his father for so long.
I can't believe this. I thought we were going to be ok. I feel like I am drowning.
M.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 7:38pm
M, Take a deep breath. You are going to be OK. I don't know if you believe in angels, but I do and your father will always be your rock even after he is gone. You'll have wonderful memories and words of wisdom to turn to. You'll turn around and see him there when you need him most. I know this will be a very hard time for you. Try to forget the envitable and enjoy your father with the time you have left. Don't spend it fretting about how it will be without him. He's not gone yet. Take lots of pictures, form lots of memories, get lots of hugs, and try to get as much advice from him while you can. When the time comes you'll feel his loving arms reaching down from heaven to hold you. You'll hear his words of wisdom whispering in your ear. Be sure and take care of yourself. I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. I will pray for you all. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 8:16pm

I am SO SO sorry. Allow the grief, the pain, the rage and soldier on because you have to. And make sure you have a counselor to help you and your kids, too.

My prayers are with you!

M

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Registered: 02-28-2007
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 8:42pm
Alva.
I am so sorry for what is happening to you and your family. There are times in life when words do not mean much but please know I will keep you in my prayers.
Frenchyie
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Registered: 07-29-2005
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 11:14am

Oh boy...that is all too familiar to me. When i was going thru my divorce my Mother's cancer had returned to her liver after being in remission for years. She was given three months as well. I was in the middle of a messy divorce and there were days i didn't get out of bed. I didn't know how i'd handle it all...three weeks before my divorce was final and i was in the middle of serious negotiations with my ex...my Mother passed away, two weeks after her passing my car caught on fire in my driveway and burned to the ground...thank god, noone was hurt. My point...in the past several years nothing and i mean nothing has gone as planned, i have hurt, i have cried my tears than i care to admit, and there have been times i didn't want to wake up. But i'm still here...i'm currently fighting a custody battle with my ex...and then i hope this is my last great battle. I'm in love with a wonderful man, who is supportive of me and loves me and treats me like a princess. My kids are happy...and you know what...so am I.

Just hang on...ride this out...love your dad while you have him, talk and share everything you possible can...so you have no regrets. It will be hard, but he will forever be with you. My prayers are with you.

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Registered: 03-18-2007
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 11:53am
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm very close to my Dad also and I can imagine you must be devastated.
**hugs**
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Registered: 02-23-2006
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 12:07pm

M-

I'm very sorry to hear about your father. I am thinking of you.

C

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